{"id":133,"date":"2016-06-01T00:46:49","date_gmt":"2016-05-31T21:46:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=133"},"modified":"2016-06-01T00:46:49","modified_gmt":"2016-05-31T21:46:49","slug":"bozulan-evlilikleri-kurtaracak-cumleler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/133\/bozulan-evlilikleri-kurtaracak-cumleler\/","title":{"rendered":"Bozulan evlilikleri kurtaracak c\u00fcmleler!"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><span style=\"font-family: Tahoma;\">Ya\u015fanan kriz an\u0131nda bu kural\u0131 mutlaka uygulay\u0131n<\/span><\/h3>\n<figure class=\"captionjs stacked img-r\"><\/figure>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Tahoma;\">E\u015fler aras\u0131 ileti\u015fimde &#8216;alt\u0131n orta nokta kural\u0131&#8217;n\u0131n vazge\u00e7ilmez bir yeri vard\u0131r. Bu kural evlilikleri kurtarmada \u00f6nemlidir. &#8216;Alt\u0131n orta nokta kural\u0131&#8217; e\u015flerin kriz ya da sorun ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 anlarda birbirlerine birer ad\u0131m atarak en ideal orta noktada bulu\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fc nas\u0131l engellenir?<\/p>\n<p>Baz\u0131 insanlarda bu kontrol \u00e7ok zay\u0131f olur. Genelde kad\u0131nlar da al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f yaparken d\u00fcrt\u00fcleriyle hareket eder, mant\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 pek fazla \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmazlar. Dan\u0131\u015fan\u0131m olan bir \u00e7iftin bu konuda ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 hayli ilgin\u00e7ti: Kad\u0131n manto almak istiyor e\u015fi ise buna &#8220;Gard\u0131robun manto dolu, ne gerek var?&#8221; diyerek kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Dolaba beraber bak\u0131yorlar ve hakikaten bir\u00e7ok manto g\u00f6r\u00fcyorlar.<\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131n baz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n yakas\u0131n\u0131 baz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n rengini bahane ediyor. E\u015flerin bu t\u00fcr bir problemi a\u015fabilmeleri i\u00e7in g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz ekonomik sisteminin t\u00fcketim \u00fczerine kurulu oldu\u011funu, moda, reklam gibi etkilerle insanlar\u0131 ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde t\u00fcketmeye y\u00f6nlendirdi\u011fini bilmeleri gerekir. \u00d6rne\u011fimizde erke\u011fin kad\u0131na, &#8220;Bu manto al\u0131nmayacak&#8221; \u015feklinde \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fmak yerine &#8220;Ger\u00e7ekten ihtiyac\u0131n olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sorgula, modas\u0131 ge\u00e7mi\u015f diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn mantolar\u0131 kullan\u0131p kullanamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bir kere daha d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn, yeni manto seni daha fazla mutlu etmeyecek&#8221; tarz\u0131nda yakla\u015fmas\u0131 do\u011fru olacakt\u0131r. Sadece erke\u011fin de\u011fil kad\u0131n\u0131n da b\u00fct\u00fcn maddi konularda bu yakla\u015f\u0131m tarz\u0131n\u0131 sergilemesi tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 ve bir\u00e7ok ailenin kabusu olan &#8220;ekonomik s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131&#8221;n\u0131n evlili\u011fi bitiren bir neden olmas\u0131n\u0131 engelleyecektir.<\/p>\n<p>E\u015flerin ev ekonomisine yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 nas\u0131l olmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n<p>Ailenin ekonomik idaresinde e\u015fler \u015funu unutmamal\u0131d\u0131r: \u00c7o\u011fu insan temel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layabildikleri halde, t\u00fcketim k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn etkisiyle zorunlu olmayan ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 nedeniyle yokluk \u00e7ektikleri hissine kap\u0131l\u0131r. Ailede temel ihtiya\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131lan\u0131yorsa &#8220;ekonomik s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131&#8221; yok demektir.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7ocuklar seni \u00f6zl\u00fcyor, erken gel\u201d<\/p>\n<p>E\u015fler aras\u0131 ileti\u015fimde &#8216;alt\u0131n orta nokta kural\u0131&#8217;n\u0131n vazge\u00e7ilmez yeri vard\u0131r. &#8216;Alt\u0131n orta nokta kural\u0131&#8217; bo\u015fanma s\u00fcrecine girmi\u015f \u00e7iftlerin evliliklerini kurtarmada \u00f6nemli rol \u00fcstlenebilir. &#8216;Alt\u0131n orta nokta kural\u0131&#8217; e\u015flerin ileti\u015fimlerinde sorun ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 anlarda birbirlerine birer ad\u0131m atarak en ideal orta noktada bulu\u015fmas\u0131 \u015feklinde tarif edilebilir.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6rne\u011fin, erke\u011fin her gece arkada\u015flar\u0131yla zaman ge\u00e7irip eve ge\u00e7 gelmesi, e\u015fine, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na zaman ay\u0131rmamas\u0131 evlilikte sorundur. Kad\u0131n, erke\u011fe \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015farak onun bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 tamamen bitirmeyi denemek yerine &#8220;Ailenle de ilgilenmelisin. \u00c7ocuklar seni \u00f6zl\u00fcyor. Haftan\u0131n 3-4 g\u00fcn\u00fc eve erken gel\u201d \u00f6nerisi erke\u011fe de mant\u0131kl\u0131 gelecek ve ikisinin de \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131 &#8216;alt\u0131n orta nokta&#8217;da bulu\u015fturacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-6662 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/gaziantep-pedagog-okanbal-randevualll.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"620\" height=\"181\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ya\u015fanan kriz an\u0131nda bu kural\u0131 mutlaka uygulay\u0131n E\u015fler aras\u0131 ileti\u015fimde &#8216;alt\u0131n orta nokta kural\u0131&#8217;n\u0131n vazge\u00e7ilmez bir yeri vard\u0131r. 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