D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yapmay\u0131 planl\u0131yorsan\u0131z asl\u0131nda bu yaz\u0131m\u0131z tam size g\u00f6re. Yaz aylar\u0131n\u0131n yakla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bug\u00fcnlerde, \u015fehrinizde bo\u015f bir salon bulmak i\u00e7in zorlan\u0131yorsunuzdur. Eskiden sadece pazar g\u00fcnleri yap\u0131lan d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnler, fazla talep olmas\u0131 nedeniyle cuma g\u00fcnlerine kadar geriledi. \u0130nsanlar bu duruma al\u0131\u015fmakta biraz zorluk ya\u015fasa da uyum sa\u011flamay\u0131 da bildi. \u00d6zellikle bizim geleneklerimizde bu merasimin farkl\u0131 bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi vard\u0131r. Yurtd\u0131\u015f\u0131nda sadece bir g\u00fcn\u00fc kapsayan s\u00fcre\u00e7, bizde bir ka\u00e7 g\u00fcn s\u00fcrer.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e eski d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn geleneklerini terk ediyoruz. Bat\u0131 K\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc\u2019ne ait bir\u00e7ok unsur, di\u011fer etkinliklerde oldu\u011fu gibi d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnlerde de kendini g\u00f6steriyor. \u015eehir ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131 ve kopuk kom\u015fuluk ili\u015fkileriyle imece de art\u0131k kayboldu. Eskiden bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn i\u00e7in konu kom\u015fu, h\u0131s\u0131m akraba toplanarak gerekli t\u00fcm haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131 bitirirlerdi. \u015eimdi genellikle d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc yapan aile, bu zorlu s\u00fcre\u00e7te yaln\u0131z b\u0131rak\u0131l\u0131yor. Asl\u0131na bak\u0131l\u0131rsa s\u00fcre\u00e7 de sadece d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn salonundaki merasimi kaps\u0131yor. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn salonu ve buradaki ara\u00e7 ve gere\u00e7lere ayr\u0131 bir parantez a\u00e7mak laz\u0131m. Talebin artmas\u0131yla bu sekt\u00f6rdeki pazar\u0131n fark\u0131na varan \u00fcreticiler, \u00e7e\u015fit \u00e7e\u015fit d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn malzemeleri \u00fcretmektedirler. Tabi ki bu malzemelerin \u00e7o\u011fu da pahal\u0131 fiyat etiketleriyle kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Sizler i\u00e7in haz\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z listede d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131 yapan \u00e7iftlerin dikkat etmesi gereken harcamalara g\u00f6z ataca\u011f\u0131z.<\/p>\n
\u0130\u015fte kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn plan\u0131 yapan \u00e7iftlere 10 alt\u0131n uyar\u0131:<\/strong><\/p>\n Havayi fi\u015fek g\u00f6sterisi, l\u00fcks d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn objeleri, pahal\u0131 bir orkestra vs. Bunlar\u0131 almaya g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcz yetiyorsa ve sizi zorlamayacaksa, burada sayd\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n y\u00fczlerce \u00e7e\u015fidini bulabilirsiniz. Aksi takdirde bu \u00fcr\u00fcnler kimsede farkl\u0131 bir duygu olu\u015fturmayacakt\u0131r. S\u0131rf \u00f6vg\u00fc almak i\u00e7in de b\u00fcy\u00fck paralar \u00f6demek zorunda hissetmeyin kendinizi.<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda b\u00fct\u00e7enizi a\u015facak l\u00fcks harcamalardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. Unutmay\u0131n ki bu k\u00fclfeti yine siz ve e\u015finiz \u00f6deyecek. Mutlu bir yuva kurmak i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bu yolda hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framay\u0131n. K\u0131sacas\u0131 \u201caya\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 yorgana g\u00f6re uzat\u0131n.\u201d<\/p>\n Herkes, \u00f6zellikle de gen\u00e7 k\u0131zlar k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckl\u00fcklerinden itibaren r\u00fcya gibi bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc hayal eder. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn mekanlar\u0131 genellikle pahal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00dcst\u00fcne bir de siz, g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc a\u015fan ultra l\u00fcks bir mekan tercih ederseniz, r\u00fcyalar\u0131n\u0131z sonunda kabusa d\u00f6nebilir. Bu arada mekan\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 daha ucuza getirmek i\u00e7in imkan\u0131n\u0131z varsa k\u0131r d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ne dersiniz?<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn pastas\u0131 salonlar\u0131n k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde yer etmesiyle birlikte, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn literat\u00fcr\u00fcnde yerini ald\u0131. Elbette bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn pastas\u0131 gerekiyor, ama a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 pahal\u0131 olmak zorunda de\u011fil. Sonu\u00e7 olarak birbirinize ikram ederken \u00e7ekilen bir ka\u00e7 \u00f6zel kare i\u00e7in her \u015fey.<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fcz ister b\u00fcy\u00fck, ister k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck olsun, hayat\u0131n\u0131zda bir kez tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z birini davet etmenize gerek yok. Bizler nedendir bilinmez, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnlerin kalabal\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla \u00f6v\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Tabi sonras\u0131nda her \u015feyin eksik kalmas\u0131yla \u015fikayetlere ba\u015flar\u0131z.<\/p>\n \u00c7ok say\u0131da nedime, elbise se\u00e7iminden tutun da b\u00fct\u00fcn aksesuarlara kadar her anlamda zorlu bir gece anlam\u0131na gelir. Ayn\u0131 \u015feyler tabi ki sa\u011fd\u0131\u00e7lar i\u00e7in de ge\u00e7erlidir. Dahas\u0131, onlar\u0131n k\u0131yafetleri \u201cortalama\u201d misafirden daha pahal\u0131 olabilir. Ekstra, bald\u0131z\u0131n\u0131z ve e\u015finizin \u00f6zel arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n kuaf\u00f6r masraflar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemiyorum bile.<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn k\u0131yafetleri genellikle en fazla paran\u0131n harcand\u0131\u011f\u0131 alanlardan. Damat ve gelinin o g\u00fcn kendini yeterince \u00f6zel hissetmesi tabi ki olduk\u00e7a do\u011fal. Ama unutmayal\u0131m ki bunu pahal\u0131l\u0131kla yapmak zorunda de\u011filsiniz. Daha az bir b\u00fct\u00e7eyle v\u00fccudunuza g\u00f6re bir elbise tercih yapabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde verilecek en g\u00fczel hediyeler \u015f\u00fcphesiz \u00f6zg\u00fcn haz\u0131rlananlard\u0131r. Bu t\u00fcr hediyelerin a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 pahal\u0131 olmas\u0131na hi\u00e7 gerek yok. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn \u00f6ncesi haz\u0131rlayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck hediyeler, eminim a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 pahal\u0131 an\u0131lardan daha etkili ve g\u00fczel olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Davetiyeler ad\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnde misafirleri d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne buyur etmek i\u00e7indir. B\u00f6yle bir \u015feyin a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 pahal\u0131 olmas\u0131na hi\u00e7 gerek yok. Olduk\u00e7a pahal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z kendinize \u00f6zel hat\u0131ra olarak bir \u00f6rnek alabilirsiniz. Bu davetiyelerin ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerdeki ak\u0131betini siz daha iyi biliyorsunuz.<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn salonlar\u0131n\u0131n genellikle kendi m\u00fczik gruplar\u0131 var. Ama siz \u00f6zel bir mekanda \u00f6zel bir m\u00fczik grubunun olmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z, olduk\u00e7a pahal\u0131ya mal olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da bilmelisiniz. B\u00f6yle bir mekan tutsan\u0131z bile \u00f6ncelikle etraf\u0131n\u0131za dan\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Eminim sizin a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 pahal\u0131ya getirece\u011finiz m\u00fczisyenden daha \u00e7ok e\u011flendirebilir misafirlerinizi.<\/p>\n Yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn sonras\u0131nda \u00e7iftlerin en b\u00fcy\u00fck ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zorluk, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn s\u0131ras\u0131nda edindikleri bor\u00e7lard\u0131r. Benim burada ki acizane \u00f6nerim \u00e7iftlerin ailelerine. Erkek ya da k\u0131z taraf\u0131 olsun, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn isteklerinde kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeliler. Sonu\u00e7ta bu borca sizin k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131z ve o\u011flunuz katlanacak, diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Siz ne dersiniz?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yapmay\u0131 planl\u0131yorsan\u0131z asl\u0131nda bu yaz\u0131m\u0131z tam size g\u00f6re. Yaz aylar\u0131n\u0131n yakla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bug\u00fcnlerde, \u015fehrinizde bo\u015f bir salon bulmak i\u00e7in zorlan\u0131yorsunuzdur....<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1850,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[93,23,94],"class_list":["post-1849","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","tag-dugun-plani-yapan-ciftlere-altin-degerinde-10-uyari","tag-evlilik-danismani","tag-evlilik-hazirligi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1849","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1849"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1849\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1849"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1849"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1849"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}10-<\/span>Gereksiz Harcamalardan Ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n<\/h2>\n
9-<\/span>G\u00f6steri \u0130\u00e7in L\u00fcks Harcamalar<\/h2>\n
8-<\/span>Abart\u0131l\u0131 Bir Mekan<\/h2>\n
7-<\/span>A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 Pahal\u0131 Pastalar<\/h2>\n
6-<\/span>Misafir Listesi<\/h2>\n
5-<\/span>Sa\u011fd\u0131\u00e7lar ve Gelinin Ardada\u015flar\u0131<\/h2>\n
4-<\/span>K\u0131yafetler<\/h2>\n
3-<\/span>Yapay An\u0131lardan Kurtulun<\/h2>\n
2-<\/span>Abart\u0131l\u0131 Davetiyeler<\/h2>\n
1-<\/span>M\u00fczik<\/h2>\n