{"id":229,"date":"2016-06-06T23:35:48","date_gmt":"2016-06-06T20:35:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=229"},"modified":"2016-06-06T23:35:48","modified_gmt":"2016-06-06T20:35:48","slug":"evlilikte-sen-zaten-hep-boyle-yapiyorsun-yaklasimi-sorunu-cozmez","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/229\/evlilikte-sen-zaten-hep-boyle-yapiyorsun-yaklasimi-sorunu-cozmez\/","title":{"rendered":"Evlilikte Sen zaten hep b\u00f6yle yap\u0131yorsun yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zmez"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Evlilikte \u00f6ncelikli niyetiniz kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiyi anlamak olmal\u0131. Hem kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 anlama gayreti, hem de &#8216;ben acaba onu ne kadar anl\u0131yorum, ya da beni niye anlam\u0131yor, acaba ben kendimi eksik mi anlat\u0131yorum&#8217; diyerek, iki tarafl\u0131 anlama gayreti olmal\u0131. Ki\u015fili\u011finde bir eksiklik yoksa bu gayreti kar\u015f\u0131 taraf da fark edecektir.<\/p>\n<p>Bir konuda tart\u0131\u015fma yap\u0131l\u0131rken, sadece o anki konuya \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm aramak gerekir. Ge\u00e7mi\u015ften \u00f6rnekler vererek tart\u0131\u015fmak, &#8216;sen zaten hep b\u00f6yle yap\u0131yorsun&#8217; gibi ifadeler kullanmak olay\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclemez bir boyuta getirir.<\/p>\n<p>Ge\u00e7mi\u015fi \u00e7ok fazla kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamak i\u00e7in de sorunlar\u0131 biriktirmemek, her defas\u0131nda oturup konu\u015fmak gerekiyor. Gururu \u00e7ok fazla \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131p gerekti\u011finde \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyebilmek, hatalar\u0131n\u0131 kabul edebilmek her zaman \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir; ama evli \u00e7iftler aras\u0131nda ili\u015fkiyi yap\u0131land\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 \u00f6zel bir etkisi vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Bir taraf \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyince kar\u015f\u0131daki ki\u015fi de kendi i\u00e7ine d\u00f6ner ve nerede hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sorgular.<\/p>\n<h4>\u015eU SORULARI KEND\u0130N\u0130ZE SORUN<\/h4>\n<p><b>1.<\/b> &#8220;Benim ger\u00e7ek duygular\u0131m, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerim nedir, bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131n as\u0131l sebebi ne?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><b>2.<\/b> Ortada ne olursa olsun, e\u015finizi anlamaya dair bir gayretiniz var m\u0131?<\/p>\n<p><b>3.<\/b> Birileri beni anlas\u0131n ve ona g\u00f6re davrans\u0131n diye mi bekliyorsunuz?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-6662 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/gaziantep-pedagog-okanbal-randevualll.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"620\" height=\"181\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Evlilikte \u00f6ncelikli niyetiniz kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiyi anlamak olmal\u0131. Hem kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 anlama gayreti, hem de &#8216;ben acaba onu ne kadar anl\u0131yorum,&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":230,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[2,23,24,38],"class_list":["post-229","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","tag-aile-danismani","tag-evlilik-danismani","tag-evlilik-sorunlari","tag-evlilik-yaklasimi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/229","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=229"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/229\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=229"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=229"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=229"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}