{"id":2602,"date":"2016-08-16T17:32:09","date_gmt":"2016-08-16T14:32:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=2602"},"modified":"2016-08-16T17:32:09","modified_gmt":"2016-08-16T14:32:09","slug":"esinizle-kavgalariniz-arttiysa-durun-ve-dusunun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/2602\/esinizle-kavgalariniz-arttiysa-durun-ve-dusunun\/","title":{"rendered":"E\u015finizle Kavgalar\u0131n\u0131z Artt\u0131ysa, Durun ve D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn"},"content":{"rendered":"

Evlilik iki farkl\u0131 insan\u0131n ortak bir ya\u015fant\u0131da bulu\u015fmas\u0131 oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in, bu farkl\u0131l\u0131klardan anla\u015fmazl\u0131klar\u0131n \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 \u00e7ok do\u011fald\u0131r.<\/p>\n

E\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki tart\u0131\u015fmalar asl\u0131nda iki insan\u0131nda bireyselliklerini kaybetmediklerinin ve fikirlerini \u00f6zg\u00fcrce ifade edebildiklerinin g\u00f6stergesidir. Ancak tart\u0131\u015fmalar s\u0131kla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, s\u00f6zel (alay etme, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lama vb.) veya fiziksel (d\u00f6vme, vurma, e\u015fya f\u0131rlatma vb.) olarak kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 incitmeye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, ailenin di\u011fer \u00fcyelerini de fiziksel (vurma, d\u00f6vme vb.) veya psikolojik (korku, kayg\u0131, mutsuzluk, vb.) olarak etkilemeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ciddi s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar ya\u015fanabilir<\/p>\n


\n<\/strong>NEDEN<\/strong><\/p>\n

E\u015flerin farkl\u0131 sebeplerle birbirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 birikmi\u015f \u00f6fkelerinin\u00a0<\/strong>a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131, bireysel olarak i\u015f veya arkada\u015f ortamlar\u0131nda ya\u015fanan olumsuz duygular\u0131n yer de\u011fi\u015ftirip e\u015flere yans\u0131mas\u0131, bu ko\u015fullar\u0131n ki\u015finin e\u015fiyle ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 tolere etmesini zorla\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131 veya ili\u015fkideki ho\u015fnutsuzluklar\u0131n ifade edilemeyip bast\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n artmas\u0131na ve \u015fiddetli kavgalara d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesine sebep olabilir.<\/p>\n

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E\u015eLER ARASI KAVGALARIN \u00c7OCUKLARA ETK\u0130S\u0130<\/strong><\/p>\n

E\u015fler aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan kavgalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 fiziksel ve psikolojik olarak etkileyebilir.<\/p>\n

Kavga s\u0131ras\u0131nda e\u015flerin y\u00fcksek sesle ba\u011f\u0131rmas\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kayg\u0131 d\u00fczeyini artt\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklarda anne babalar\u0131n\u0131n ayr\u0131laca\u011f\u0131na dair yo\u011fun bir korku olu\u015fur.<\/p>\n

Kavgalar \u015fiddet i\u00e7ermeye ba\u015flarsa, \u00e7ocuklar fiziksel b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fcklerine zarar gelece\u011finden endi\u015felenir, g\u00fcvensiz hisseder, psikosomatik\u00a0 belirtiler (mide bulant\u0131s\u0131, ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131, kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131, uykusuzluk, vb.) g\u00f6sterebilirler.<\/p>\n

E\u015fler kavgalar\u0131n psikolojik etkisi ile anne ve babal\u0131k g\u00f6revlerini tam olarak yerine getiremezler. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131na yeterli ilgi, sevgi ve sabr\u0131 g\u00f6steremezler.<\/p>\n

Ebeveynlerin depresif ruh halleri \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na da yans\u0131r, \u00e7ocuklar da yo\u011fun \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc, mutsuzluk, hi\u00e7bir \u015feyden zevk alamama gibi depresif belirtiler g\u00f6sterirler.<\/p>\n

Kavgalar\u0131n etkisiyle ebeveynlerin duygular\u0131 ini\u015fli \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na tutarl\u0131 davranmazlar. \u00c7ocuklar da bu tutars\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flar sonucu bir\u00e7ok davran\u0131\u015f problemi g\u00f6sterebilirler.<\/p>\n

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\u00c7OCUKLARINIZ S\u0130Z\u0130 KARI-KOCA OLARAK G\u00d6REMEZ!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131nda kavga edenleri kar\u0131-koca olarak de\u011fil, anne babalar\u0131 olarak alg\u0131lad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in kavga konusunun da anne ve babal\u0131kla ilgili oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrler. Kendileri ile ilgiliymi\u015fcesine endi\u015felenir ve su\u00e7luluk hissederler. Kendilerini sorumlu hissettikleri i\u00e7in problemin \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc ile ilgili bir\u015feyler yapmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fine inan\u0131rlar. Sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zemediklerinde ise \u00e7aresizlik hisler artar.
\nE\u015eLER ARASINDA TARTI\u015eMALARIN \u00c7OCUKLARA ETK\u0130S\u0130N\u0130N EN AZ OLAB\u0130LMES\u0130 \u0130\u00c7\u0130N;<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 s\u00f6zel veya fiziksel \u015fiddete d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeyin.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n probleme \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm getirmek i\u00e7in yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmay\u0131n ve tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7 sava\u015f\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeyin.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n anne babal\u0131k g\u00f6revlerinizi engellemesine izin vermeyin.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklara tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n annelik ve babal\u0131kla bir ilgisi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, kar\u0131 koca aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan bir durum oldu\u011funu ve bu duruma m\u00fcdahale etmelerini istemedi\u011finizi belirtin.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n duygusal olarak \u00e7ok fazla etkilendi\u011fi durumlarda bir uzmana ba\u015fvurun.<\/p>\n

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SA\u011eLIKLI TARTI\u015eMALAR \u0130\u00c7\u0130N NELER YAPILAB\u0130L\u0130R?<\/strong><\/p>\n

E\u015fler tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n sevgiyle alakas\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve tart\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 zaman ili\u015fkiye zarar vermediklerini bilmelidirler.<\/p>\n

Her \u015feyde oldu\u011fu gibi ili\u015fkilerde de zamanla bir de\u011fi\u015fim oldu\u011fu kabul edilmeli. Bu de\u011fi\u015fimin her zaman olumsuz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bilinmelidir.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n s\u0131kl\u0131kla g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr sebebinin ger\u00e7ek sebep olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmeli, iki taraf da ger\u00e7ek sebebi bulmaya ve konu\u015fmaya a\u00e7\u0131k olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015f\u0131rken \u201cben\u201d dili kullan\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u201c…yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ben…hissettim\u201d gibi …<\/p>\n

Ki\u015filer kendilerini e\u015flerinin yerine koymaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilir, kendilerine \u201cayn\u0131 durumda ben ne hissederdim?\u201d sorusunu sorabilirler.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fmalar s\u0131ras\u0131nda hissedilen \u00f6fkenin alt\u0131nda yatan di\u011fer duygular\u0131n neler oldu\u011funa odaklan\u0131labilir ve bu duygular kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 olarak payla\u015f\u0131labilir. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman ihmal edilmi\u015flik hisleri, daha fazla ilgi iste\u011fi ki\u015fide k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa yol a\u00e7abilmektedir.<\/p>\n

Olumsuz duygular hissedildi\u011fi zaman konu\u015fulmal\u0131d\u0131r, i\u00e7e at\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015f\u0131rken ama\u00e7 ortak bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme varmak olmal\u0131d\u0131r, kar\u015f\u0131dakini ikna etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak ve \u201ckazanmak\u201d de\u011fil.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fmalarda su\u00e7un kimde oldu\u011funu ara\u015ft\u0131rmamal\u0131, tart\u0131\u015fma olabilmesi i\u00e7in iki ki\u015finin olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Zaman zaman ki\u015filer i\u015f veya sosyal ya\u015fant\u0131lar\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 ki\u015fisel s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n ili\u015fkilerine yans\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark edemezler.<\/p>\n

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UNUTMAYIN !<\/strong><\/p>\n

Kavgalarda e\u015flerin birbirlerine alayc\u0131, hakaret dolu, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131 davranmas\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bu t\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 model almalar\u0131na sebep olur. Onlar da kendi ya\u015famlar\u0131n da benzer durumlarda benzer tepkiler g\u00f6sterirler. E\u011fer s\u00fcrekli olarak ayn\u0131 ki\u015fi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanmaya maruz kal\u0131yorsa, \u00e7ocuklar ya a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanan ebeveyn ile \u00f6zde\u015fim kurar ve onun duygular\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famaya ba\u015flarlar ya da di\u011fer ebeveyn ile \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015ferek a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanan ebeveyne benzer tepkiler verirler.<\/p>\n

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