{"id":3442,"date":"2016-09-10T00:48:02","date_gmt":"2016-09-09T21:48:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=3442"},"modified":"2016-09-10T00:48:02","modified_gmt":"2016-09-09T21:48:02","slug":"once-karsinizdaki-kimseyi-anlamayi-hedefleyin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/3442\/once-karsinizdaki-kimseyi-anlamayi-hedefleyin\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00d6nce Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki Kimseyi Anlamay\u0131 Hedefleyin"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Temel olarak kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki kimseyi anlamay\u0131 hedeflemek, sizin kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakiler taraf\u0131ndan anla\u015f\u0131lmak iste\u011finizi bast\u0131r\u0131p, \u00f6nce onlar\u0131 anlamak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterebilmenizdir. Yani, kendinize ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na yararl\u0131 olacak kaliteli bir ileti\u015fim kurmak istiyorsan\u0131z, \u00f6nce ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 anlamak gerekti\u011fini kabul edeceksiniz.<\/p>\n<p>Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki insanlar\u0131n nereden geldiklerini, ne yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131m, neye \u00f6nem verdiklerini ve bu gibi noktalar\u0131 anlad\u0131ktan sonra, sizin anla\u015f\u0131lman\u0131z hi\u00e7bir \u00e7aba gerektirmeden, do\u011fal olarak ger\u00e7ekle\u015fecektir.<\/p>\n<p>Ancak, bu s\u00fcreci tersine \u00e7evirmeye kalkarsan\u0131z, (ki, \u00e7o\u011fumuz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman b\u00f6yle yapar\u0131z) arabay\u0131 at\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne koymu\u015f olursunuz. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini anlamadan kendinizi anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rsan\u0131z, harcad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u00e7aba hem siz hem de kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki insan taraf\u0131ndan hissedilir. \u0130leti\u015fim sekteye u\u011frar ve belki de konu\u015fma bir ki\u015filik \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 halinde son bulur.<\/p>\n<p>Evliliklerinin ilk on y\u0131l\u0131n\u0131 mali konularda tart\u0131\u015farak mutsuzluk i\u00e7inde ge\u00e7iren bir \u00e7ift. Adam kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 her kuru\u015fu kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n bir yana saklama iste\u011fini anlayam\u0131yordu. Kad\u0131n da onun \u00e7ok fazla harcama heveslisi olu\u015fundan yak\u0131nmaktayd\u0131. Her ikisi de b\u00fcy\u00fck bir h\u00fcsran i\u00e7inde, di\u011fer taraf\u0131n amac\u0131m anlamaktan uzakt\u0131. Bu \u00e7iftin sorunu \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck say\u0131lmazd\u0131 ve \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc kolayd\u0131. \u0130kisi de anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissediyordu. O halde, birbirlerinin s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kesmeden, dikkatle dinlemeyi \u00f6\u011frenmeleri gerekliydi.\u00a0Adam kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n kendi ebeveynleri gibi sefil olmamak i\u00e7in para biriktirdi\u011fini anlad\u0131. Yani, ileride bir g\u00fcn be\u015f paras\u0131z kalmaktan korkuyordu. Adam ise, kendi babas\u0131n\u0131n annesine sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00fcksek standard\u0131 kar\u0131s\u0131na veremedi\u011fi i\u00e7in utan\u0131yordu. Kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n onunla gurur duymas\u0131n\u0131 istemi\u015fti. Birbirlerini daha iyi anlad\u0131k\u00e7a, k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar\u0131 yerini kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015fa b\u0131rakt\u0131. Bug\u00fcn art\u0131k harcamayla tasarruf aras\u0131nda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir denge kurmu\u015f durumdalar.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6nce kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini anlamak, kimin hakl\u0131 kimin haks\u0131z oldu\u011fu konusu de\u011fildir; sadece etkili bir ileti\u015fim kurman\u0131n temel felsefesidir. Bu y\u00f6ntemi kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman, sizinle konu\u015fan insanlar\u0131n ciddiye al\u0131nmaktan ve s\u00f6zlerinin dinlenmesinden memnun kald\u0131klar\u0131m fark edeceksiniz. Bu da, \u00e7ok daha iyi ve sevgi dolu ili\u015fkiler anlam\u0131na gelir.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Okan Bal<br \/>\nUzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman ve Aile Terapisti<\/p>\n<p>Sorunlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n Daha Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc \u0130\u00e7in<br \/>\n\u201cOnline Terapi\u201d Randevusu Alabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/randevu-al\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3385\" src=\"http:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.okanbal.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/psikolojik-danisma-ogrenci-danismanligi-randevual1-gaziantep.png?resize=298%2C95\" alt=\"onlineterapim-randevual\" width=\"298\" height=\"95\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Temel olarak kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki kimseyi anlamay\u0131 hedeflemek, sizin kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakiler taraf\u0131ndan anla\u015f\u0131lmak iste\u011finizi bast\u0131r\u0131p, \u00f6nce onlar\u0131 anlamak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterebilmenizdir. Yani, kendinize&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3443,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[316,99,317,173,181,230,182],"class_list":["post-3442","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-etkili-dinleme","tag-evlilikte-iletisim","tag-karsi-tarafi-anlamak","tag-online-aile-danismanligi","tag-online-danismanlik","tag-online-evlilik-terapisi","tag-online-terapi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3442","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3442"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3442\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3442"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3442"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3442"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}