{"id":3620,"date":"2016-09-26T02:22:30","date_gmt":"2016-09-25T23:22:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=3620"},"modified":"2016-09-26T02:22:30","modified_gmt":"2016-09-25T23:22:30","slug":"ayrildiktan-sonra-yapilan-hatalar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/3620\/ayrildiktan-sonra-yapilan-hatalar\/","title":{"rendered":"Ayr\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra yap\u0131lan hatalar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131klar hayat\u0131n bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi ve e\u015finizden yahut sevgilinizden ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z hatalar\u0131n telafisi bazen \u00e7o\u011fu zaman m\u00fcmk\u00fcn bile olmayabiliyor. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla <strong>ayr\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra yap\u0131lan hatalar<\/strong> konusunda bilgili olmak, bu hatalardan uzak durmak ve onlar\u0131n etkilerinden sak\u0131nabilmek i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli. Aksi taktirde ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00fczerine bir de davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131na katlanmak zorunda kalman\u0131z i\u015ften bile de\u011fil.<\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra yap\u0131lan hatalar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, belki de ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015finin arkas\u0131ndan <strong>k\u00f6t\u00fc konu\u015fmak<\/strong>. Zira birlikte g\u00fczel vakitler ge\u00e7irdi\u011finiz bu insan\u0131n ard\u0131ndan k\u00f6t\u00fc konu\u015fmak, hem ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n an\u0131s\u0131na bir ihanet olacakt\u0131r hem de bir daha o ki\u015finin hayatta ne zaman kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilme ihtimaliniz yok. Bunun yan\u0131nda, \u00f6zel hayata dair bilgilerinizi payla\u015fmak, di\u011fer insanlar \u00fczerinde k\u00f6t\u00fc bir izlenim b\u0131rakacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Pek \u00e7ok kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir di\u011fer hata ise, gereksiz yere <strong>g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak\u00a0<\/strong>olmaktad\u0131r. Ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n ard\u0131ndan g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, maalesef \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc ya\u015fama ihtimalinizi ortadan kald\u0131racakt\u0131r ve bu durum da psikolojik olarak ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n etkilerinden kurtulma s\u00fcrenizi uzatacakt\u0131r. Korku ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerinizle y\u00fczle\u015fmek, bu konuda \u00e7ok daha faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. Yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, y\u00fczle\u015filmeyen korku ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerin, ilerleyen zamanlarda ciddi ruhsal bunal\u0131mlara sebep olabildi\u011fini g\u00f6steriyor.<\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ard\u0131ndan<strong> intikam almaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak<\/strong>da maalesef size \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc getirmekten ba\u015fka bir i\u015fe yaramayacakt\u0131r. \u0130ntikam i\u00e7in ba\u015fka birisiyle birlikte olmak, ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015finin i\u015flerini zorla\u015ft\u0131rmak, onun yeni ili\u015fkisini sabote etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak gibi durumlar, maalesef hem sizi hem de kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 sinir edecektir ve ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n etkilerinden kurtulman\u0131z\u0131 imkans\u0131z hale getirecektir. Kendi yolunuza bakman\u0131z her iki taraf i\u00e7in de daha faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 kald\u0131ramay\u0131p <strong>bar\u0131\u015fmak<\/strong> i\u00e7in yalvarmak ise sizi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kadar, sizi art\u0131k sevmeyen birisine kar\u015f\u0131 gereksiz duygular beslemenize neden olacakt\u0131r. Kar\u015f\u0131 taraf zaten sizinle bar\u0131\u015fmak istemiyorsa sizi g\u00f6zden \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015f demektir ve bu nedenle kendinizi yorman\u0131n da bir anlam\u0131 yok. Bar\u0131\u015fsan\u0131z bile ili\u015fkinizin \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcreler devam edece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyin.<\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131ktan sonra kendinizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, <strong>sa\u00e7lar\u0131 kestirmek<\/strong>, k\u0131yafetler almak, ekstrem i\u015flere giri\u015fmek gibi davran\u0131\u015flar, o an sizi mutlu etse de ayr\u0131l\u0131kla y\u00fczle\u015fmenizi engelleyecektir. Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z de\u011fi\u015fikliklerden ho\u015fnut kalmama ihtimaliniz de her zaman mevcut.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Okan Bal<br \/>\nUzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman ve Aile Terapisti<\/p>\n<p>Sorunlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n Daha Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc \u0130\u00e7in<br \/>\n\u201cOnline Terapi\u201d Randevusu Alabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/randevu-al\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3385\" src=\"http:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.okanbal.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/psikolojik-danisma-ogrenci-danismanligi-randevual1-gaziantep.png?resize=298%2C95\" alt=\"onlineterapim-randevual\" width=\"298\" height=\"95\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131klar hayat\u0131n bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi ve e\u015finizden yahut sevgilinizden ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z hatalar\u0131n telafisi bazen \u00e7o\u011fu zaman m\u00fcmk\u00fcn bile olmayabiliyor. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3621,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[342,173,230,285,182],"class_list":["post-3620","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-ayrildiktan-sonra-yapilan-hatalar","tag-online-aile-danismanligi","tag-online-evlilik-terapisi","tag-online-psikolojik-danismanlik","tag-online-terapi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3620","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3620"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3620\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3620"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3620"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3620"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}