{"id":4180,"date":"2016-11-21T10:54:28","date_gmt":"2016-11-21T08:54:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=4180"},"modified":"2016-11-21T10:54:28","modified_gmt":"2016-11-21T08:54:28","slug":"asiri-kiskanclik-iliskiyi-siddet-sinirlarina-goturebiliyor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/4180\/asiri-kiskanclik-iliskiyi-siddet-sinirlarina-goturebiliyor\/","title":{"rendered":"A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, ili\u015fkiyi \u015fiddet s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na g\u00f6t\u00fcrebiliyor!"},"content":{"rendered":"

G\u00fcnl\u00fck s\u0131radan sosyal ili\u015fkilerimizde sorunlar ya\u015fayabilece\u011fimiz gibi duygusal ili\u015fkiler kurdu\u011fumuz e\u015fimizle de sorunlar ya\u015fayabiliyoruz.\u00a0Kimi zaman bu sorunlar\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u00f6zmek ili\u015fkiyi daha da g\u00fc\u00e7lendirirken, kimi zaman ise y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furabiliyor, hatta \u015fiddetle bile sonu\u00e7lanabiliyor. D\u00fcnya Sa\u011fl\u0131k \u00d6rg\u00fct\u00fc\u2019n\u00fcn istatistiklerine g\u00f6re d\u00fcnya genelinde kad\u0131nlar\u0131n y\u00fczde 30\u2019u e\u015fleri taraf\u0131ndan fiziksel ya da cinsel \u015fiddet g\u00f6r\u00fcyorlar. Ayr\u0131ca d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck sosyoekonomik seviyede, \u015fiddet davran\u0131\u015f\u0131yla daha s\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n

\u015eiddetin ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131nda bir\u00e7ok etmen s\u00f6z konusu olmakla birlikte, psikoloji ve medya gibi bir\u00e7ok fakt\u00f6r \u015fiddet uygulayan ki\u015finin durumunu a\u00e7\u0131klamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. Karma\u015f\u0131k bir \u015fekilde kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kan bu etmenler konu hakk\u0131nda bilgi edinmemizi sa\u011fl\u0131yor. Bunlardan en somut \u015fekilde kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kan\u0131 ise \u201cpsikoloji\u201d ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 alt\u0131ndaki \u201ck\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k\u201d kavram\u0131.<\/p>\n

A\u015f\u0131r\u0131\u00a0k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k\u00a0ve tedavisi<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0130kili ili\u015fkilerde y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 sonu\u00e7lara yol a\u00e7an durumlardan biri olan k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, kimi zaman fark\u0131na varmadan ili\u015fkiyi \u015fiddet s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na g\u00f6t\u00fcrebiliyor. Kimi zaman ise dozunda k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ili\u015fkinin ihtiyac\u0131 haline gelebiliyor, hatta ili\u015fkiyi daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir hale getirebiliyor. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn ili\u015fkilerinde \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck \u00f6n planda olmas\u0131 sebebiyle ki\u015filerin bir miktar k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k sergilemesi o ki\u015finin di\u011ferlerinden ayr\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na sa\u011flayabiliyor. Bu dengenin sa\u011flanmas\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrden k\u00fclt\u00fcre olduk\u00e7a de\u011fi\u015fkenlik g\u00f6sterebilirken, u\u00e7 noktalar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcmc\u00fcl sonu\u00e7lara sebep oldu\u011funu\u00a0kad\u0131n cinayetlerinden g\u00f6rebiliyoruz.<\/p>\n

Bu u\u00e7 noktadaki k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k durumuna ise\u00a0patolojik k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k(Otello sendromu) diyoruz. Bu noktada normal k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ile patolojik k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k kimi zaman benze\u015fmekle birlikte, patolojik k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k daha belirgin \u00f6zelliklerle kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015fi bir ki\u015fiye tamam\u0131yla sahip olma arzusu i\u00e7inde oluyor ve ki\u015finin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki insan\u0131 tehdit olarak alg\u0131lamas\u0131 k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n tetiklenmesine sebep olabiliyor. Ki\u015finin \u00f6nemsedi\u011fi ili\u015fkisinin tehdit alt\u0131nda oldu\u011funu abart\u0131l\u0131 \u015fekilde alg\u0131lamas\u0131 sonucunda k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, patolojik boyutlara ula\u015fabiliyor. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k bu noktada duygular karma\u015fas\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

Ayr\u0131ca patolojik k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ki\u015finin kendine olan g\u00fcvensizli\u011fi ve kendini yetersiz hissetmesi durumlar\u0131nda daha fazla ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Yetersizli\u011fini ili\u015fkiye yans\u0131tan birey kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n psikolojisini ve ili\u015fkinin gidi\u015fat\u0131n\u0131 olumsuz etkiliyor.<\/p>\n

Patolojik k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131kana kadar normal alg\u0131lansa da hissedildi\u011fi bir anda tedaviye ba\u015flanmas\u0131 gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ki\u015finin ve \u00e7evresindekilerin g\u00fcnl\u00fck i\u015flevlerini olduk\u00e7a bozar. Bu noktada psikolog deste\u011fi almak bu s\u00fcrecin en \u00f6nemli par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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