{"id":4624,"date":"2017-01-07T09:00:06","date_gmt":"2017-01-07T07:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=4624"},"modified":"2017-01-07T09:00:06","modified_gmt":"2017-01-07T07:00:06","slug":"aile-ici-sorunlar-nasil-cozulur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/4624\/aile-ici-sorunlar-nasil-cozulur\/","title":{"rendered":"Aile \u0130\u00e7i Sorunlar nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcr?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sorunlar tart\u0131\u015fma yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz h\u00e2le gelir, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat basit \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmleri olmayan \u00e7e\u015fit \u00e7e\u015fit zorluklar\u0131 bulup \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131verir. Sorunlar\u0131 nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz, ili\u015fkinizin kalitesini ve nihayetinde varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcp s\u00fcrd\u00fcremeyece\u011fini belirler.<\/p>\n

Sorunlar nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcr?<\/strong><\/p>\n

A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da i\u015fe yarayabilecek baz\u0131 genel yakla\u015f\u0131mlar bulabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n

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  1. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zdan emin olun. Konu hakk\u0131ndaki bilgisini payla\u015fmas\u0131 i\u00e7in a\u00e7\u0131k u\u00e7lu sorular sorun. Yani c\u00fcmlelerinize \u201ckim\u201d, \u201cne zaman\u201d, \u201cne\u201d, \u201cnas\u0131l\u201d, veya \u201cnerede\u201d gibi soru zamirleriyle ba\u015flayabilirsiniz. \u00c7ok fazla savunmac\u0131 yan\u0131tlar \u00fcretebilece\u011finden dolay\u0131, \u201cneden\u201d diye sormaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. Bir\u00e7ok sorunun, basit\u00e7e bir dinleme \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131ndan ibaret oldu\u011funu unutmay\u0131n. Ger\u00e7ekten de sadece dinlemek bile, e\u015finizin hissetti\u011fi kayg\u0131lar\u0131 kolayca azaltabilir.<\/li>\n
  2. Yan\u0131t vermeden \u00f6nce, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin s\u00f6yledi\u011fini yineleyin. Bu hem kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakine olan sayg\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6stermenize, hem de e\u015finizin ilgilendi\u011fi \u015feyi ger\u00e7ekten anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zdan emin olman\u0131za yard\u0131m edecektir.<\/li>\n
  3. \u0130kinize de uygun \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmler i\u00e7in, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca a\u00e7\u0131k ve pozitif bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme d\u00fczene\u011fi kurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Bu ikiniz aras\u0131nda ortak bir zemin kurulmas\u0131na yarayabilir: \u201cX ve Y konular\u0131nda anla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum, ancak Z konusunun biraz daha \u00fczerinden ge\u00e7memiz gerekiyor\u201d.<\/li>\n
  4. Sorunlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmek i\u00e7in uygun bir zaman se\u00e7in. \u00dczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015feyleri halledebilmeniz i\u00e7in enerjinizi bu i\u015fe sevk edebilmeniz gerekir. E\u011fer akl\u0131n\u0131z ba\u015fka bir yerdeyse veya \u00e7ok yorgunsan\u0131z, ba\u015fka bir zaman\u0131 se\u00e7meniz \u00e7ok daha iyi olur.<\/li>\n
  5. De\u011fi\u015fim i\u00e7in a\u00e7\u0131k ve net taleplerde bulunmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. E\u011fer bir \u015fey can\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131yorsa, ona bunu anlat\u0131n. \u00d6rne\u011fin, \u201cX\u2019i ne zaman halledeceksin, bu konuda ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc hissediyorum \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc\u2026 L\u00fctfen gelecek sefer Y yapmay\u0131 dener misin?\u201d<\/li>\n
  6. K\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 bir dilden ve ele\u015ftirel saptamalardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n.<\/li>\n
  7. Sorunu, e\u015finizin ki\u015fili\u011finden ayr\u0131 tutmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Bir sorunu, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin karakterine genel bir sald\u0131r\u0131 yaparak yok edemezsiniz.<\/strong> B\u00f6ylece \u00f6rne\u011fin, ikinizden biri baz\u0131 \u015feyleri son dakikaya b\u0131rakmay\u0131 tercih ediyorsa, bunu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiz bir ki\u015filik yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6rne\u011fi olarak farz etmekten imtina edin ve bunun yerine \u00f6zel bir durum \u00fczerine yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131n: \u201cBug\u00fcn on be\u015f dakika daha erken haz\u0131rlanmaya ne dersin? Bu, benim daha rahat hissetmemi sa\u011flayacak\u201d.<\/li>\n
  8. \u0130kiniz i\u00e7in de uygun \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmler ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n.<\/li>\n
  9. Elinizdeki sorun \u00fczerinde yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131n. Eski mevzulara uzanmak, felaket habercisidir.<\/strong><\/li>\n
  10. Bir kerede, sadece bir sorunla ilgilenin.<\/li>\n
  11. Mizah duygunuzu canl\u0131 tutmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Sevdi\u011finiz biriyle her bir sorunu tan\u0131mlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda ve \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde, daha da yak\u0131nla\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130li\u015fkiniz g\u00fc\u00e7lenir ve k\u00f6\u015fe ba\u015f\u0131nda sizi bekleyen yeni sorunlar i\u00e7in g\u00fczel bir \u201cyat\u0131r\u0131m\u201d yapm\u0131\u015f olursunuz. Sorunlar hakk\u0131nda birlikte u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, birbiriniz hakk\u0131nda da daha \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frenirsiniz. Ve neticede, a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmenize ve ayn\u0131 zamanda ger\u00e7ek d\u00fcnyada ya\u015faman\u0131za yard\u0131m etmi\u015f de olursunuz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Sorunlar tart\u0131\u015fma yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz h\u00e2le gelir, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat basit \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmleri olmayan \u00e7e\u015fit \u00e7e\u015fit zorluklar\u0131 bulup \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131verir. Sorunlar\u0131 nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz, ili\u015fkinizin...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4625,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[27,624,52,182,8,156],"class_list":["post-4624","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-aile-danismanligi","tag-aile-ici-sorunlar-nasil-cozulur","tag-evlilik-terapisi","tag-online-terapi","tag-sehitkamil-aile-danismanim","tag-sehitkamil-evlilik-terapisi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4624","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4624"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4624\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4624"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4624"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4624"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}