Babalar\u0131n k\u0131zlar\u0131yla hayat\u0131n ilk d\u00f6nemlerinde hayranl\u0131kla ba\u015flayan \u00f6zel ili\u015fkileri, k\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n babalar\u0131n\u0131n hayatlar\u0131ndaki ilk erkek olmalar\u0131 nedeniyle yo\u011fun bir ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k duygusuyla kendini g\u00f6steriyor. Koruyucu, kollay\u0131c\u0131 bir \u015fekilde ba\u015flayan bu \u00f6zel ileti\u015fimde, ergenlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndan itibaren \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Bu f\u0131rt\u0131nal\u0131 d\u00f6nemde babalar ve k\u0131zlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda en \u00e7ok g\u00f6r\u00fclen sorunlar\u0131, iyi ileti\u015fim rehberinin 7 vazge\u00e7ilmezini \u015f\u00f6yle s\u0131ral\u0131yor:<\/p>\n
Kural varsa anne de uymal\u0131:<\/strong> Baba k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n giyim ku\u015fam\u0131na, eve gidi\u015f geli\u015f saatlerine kar\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. Gen\u00e7 k\u0131z ise, babas\u0131na ben b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm, bana kar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n, \u00f6zg\u00fcr\u00fcm diyor. Bu durumda baba k\u0131z\u0131na ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar nedeniyle yasak koyuyor. Burada baba kural koyarken, anne babadan gizli yasa\u011f\u0131 kald\u0131r\u0131yor. Oysa kurallara uyumun sa\u011flanmas\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f birli\u011fiyle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn.<\/p>\n Yasaklar\u0131n mant\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmal\u0131:<\/strong> Baba k\u0131z\u0131na yasak koyuyorsa, bunun gerek\u00e7elerini de onun anlayabilece\u011fi bir \u015fekilde anlatmal\u0131. S\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z bir \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ya\u015famda baz\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlamalar\u0131n oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemeli.<\/p>\n Konulan tav\u0131r e\u015fref saatine g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fmemeli:<\/strong> Babalar k\u0131zlar\u0131na ya\u015fam\u0131n herhangi bir alan\u0131yla ilgili k\u0131s\u0131tlama getirdiklerinde ya da kural koyduklar\u0131nda, bu kural her zaman ge\u00e7erli olmal\u0131. Yani baban\u0131n e\u015fref saatinde konulup, sakinle\u015ftikten sonra ba\u015fka kural getirilmemeli.<\/p>\n Sen iyisin d\u00fcnya k\u00f6t\u00fc demek yanl\u0131\u015f:<\/strong> G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde babalar\u0131n k\u0131zlar\u0131na en \u00e7ok s\u00f6yledi\u011fi c\u00fcmlelerin ba\u015f\u0131nda \u2018Sana g\u00fcveniyorum, ama d\u00fcnya k\u00f6t\u00fc bu y\u00fczden sana kural koyuyorum\u2019 geliyor. Oysa bu c\u00fcmleyle ba\u015flayan ifadeler g\u00fcvensizlik ifade etti\u011finden \u00e7ocu\u011fun da \u00e7evresine g\u00fcvenini zedeliyor. Gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n hi\u00e7 evden \u00e7\u0131kmamas\u0131, cam bir fanusta ya\u015famas\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil. Bu nedenle \u00e7evresinden gelecek olumsuzluklara kar\u015f\u0131 neler yapabilece\u011fini ve \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yollar\u0131n\u0131 anlatmak daha do\u011fru.<\/p>\n Erkeklerle ilgili korkutmay\u0131n, bilgilendirin: <\/strong>Babalar k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131na giren erkekleri kolay kabullenemez. Ele\u015ftirel yakla\u015f\u0131r. Ama ele\u015ftirel ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyici tav\u0131rlarla, k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131na giren erkekle ilgili olumsuz yorumlar yapmak, k\u00fcst\u00fcrmek ve yalana te\u015fvik etmek gibi sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furur. Babalar k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131na ba\u015fka erkeklerin girebilece\u011fini kabul etmeli.<\/p>\n Babalar idol olmaktan vazge\u00e7in:<\/strong> Bir\u00e7ok kad\u0131n hayat\u0131na giren erkekleri, babas\u0131yla k\u0131yaslar. Bu nedenle baba k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnde idol olmaktan vazge\u00e7meli, kendi hatalar\u0131n\u0131 anlamal\u0131, erkeklerle ilgili k\u0131z\u0131yla sohbet etmeli. Erkeklerle ilgili bilgileri korkutmadan, ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir \u015fekilde k\u0131z\u0131yla konu\u015fmal\u0131.<\/p>\n Tart\u0131\u015fmac\u0131 de\u011fil, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmc\u00fc olun:<\/strong> K\u0131zlar\u0131n eve gidi\u015f geli\u015f saatleri, giyimleri de babalar i\u00e7in sorun oluyor. Geli\u015f gidi\u015f saatleri konusunda, ya\u015fan\u0131lan sosyal \u00e7evreye uygun, zaman zaman esnetilen kurallar konulmal\u0131. Anne de bu kurala uymal\u0131. Baban\u0131n koydu\u011fu ve mant\u0131kl\u0131 olan kurallar, annenin yumu\u015fak kalbiyle \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmemeli.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Babalar\u0131n k\u0131zlar\u0131yla hayat\u0131n ilk d\u00f6nemlerinde hayranl\u0131kla ba\u015flayan \u00f6zel ili\u015fkileri, k\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n babalar\u0131n\u0131n hayatlar\u0131ndaki ilk erkek olmalar\u0131 nedeniyle yo\u011fun bir ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4650,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[27,631,52,182,8,156],"class_list":["post-4649","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-aile-danismanligi","tag-babalar-ve-kizlarin-iyi-iletisimi-icin","tag-evlilik-terapisi","tag-online-terapi","tag-sehitkamil-aile-danismanim","tag-sehitkamil-evlilik-terapisi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4649","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4649"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4649\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4649"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4649"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4649"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}