{"id":5043,"date":"2017-03-25T14:44:54","date_gmt":"2017-03-25T12:44:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=5043"},"modified":"2017-03-25T14:44:54","modified_gmt":"2017-03-25T12:44:54","slug":"mukemmel-kadin-olmak-mi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/5043\/mukemmel-kadin-olmak-mi\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u00fckemmel Kad\u0131n Olmak m\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cM\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n\u201d denildi\u011finde akl\u0131n\u0131za ne gelir? Toplumun ve ya\u015fam\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcne yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u00fcm s\u0131fatlar\u0131 eksiksiz yerine getiren kad\u0131n!<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130yi bir e\u015f, anne, di\u015fi, seksi, ev han\u0131m\u0131, i\u015f kad\u0131n\u0131, dost, evlat, sevgili ve daha bir\u00e7ok \u015fey olan m\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n, neden mutsuz olur? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu kad\u0131nlar ba\u015fkalar\u0131 i\u00e7in ya\u015farlar!<\/p>\n

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Bir ili\u015fkide kad\u0131n, e\u015finin hayat\u0131n\u0131 gere\u011finden fazla kolayla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, iyi bir i\u015f yapm\u0131\u015f olmaz. Her sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zebilen, sorumluluklar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnde ta\u015f\u0131yan, d\u00fczeni koruyan ve bunun i\u00e7in insan\u00fcst\u00fc \u00e7aba g\u00f6steren kad\u0131n, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki erke\u011fin geneti\u011fini bozar.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan do\u011fas\u0131 almaya, t\u00fcketmeye e\u011filimlidir ve rahata \u00e7abuk al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. M\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n, her konuda ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011fundan, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakine yapacak bir \u015fey b\u0131rakmaz. Armut pi\u015f, a\u011fz\u0131ma d\u00fc\u015f! \u0130li\u015fkiler, payla\u015f\u0131m olmadan b\u00fcy\u00fcmez. Kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin geli\u015fimi, ya\u015fam\u0131n getirdi\u011fi sorumluluklar, dersler ve \u00e7aba ile do\u011fru orant\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011funun okul \u00f6devlerini kendisi yapan bir anne, evlad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6\u011frenmesini ve yeteneklerini geli\u015ftirmesini engelledi\u011finin fark\u0131nda de\u011fildir. Ayn\u0131 durum ili\u015fkilerde de ge\u00e7erlidir. E\u015finin i\u015flerini \u00fcstlenen, yapmas\u0131 gerekenleri onun yerine yapan, beceremediklerini bir \u015fekilde halleden m\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n, mutsuz olmaya mahkumdur.<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fin garip taraf\u0131, bu yap\u0131daki kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ili\u015fkileri genellikle hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile biter. En \u00e7ok aldat\u0131lan, terk edilen kad\u0131nlar, kusursuz kad\u0131nlard\u0131r. Neden aldat\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlayamazlar. \u00dcstelik e\u015flerinin se\u00e7tikleri kad\u0131nlar, kendilerinden \u00e7ok daha vas\u0131fs\u0131z olanlard\u0131r. \u201cBenim neyim eksikti?\u201d Bu c\u00fcmlenin cevab\u0131 havada kalacakt\u0131r, hatta \u015fok etkisi bile yaratabilir ama eksik olan kusurdur.<\/p>\n

\u0130li\u015fkiler payla\u015f\u0131m \u00fczerine kuruludur. M\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n, e\u015finin yapacaklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcne ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, zaferlerini de elinden alm\u0131\u015f olur. \u00c7aba g\u00f6stermek, u\u011fra\u015fmak i\u00e7in ortada sebep b\u0131rakmaz. Heyecan\u0131, hevesi kalmayan bir e\u015f, do\u011fal olarak gidip, kendini g\u00f6sterece\u011fi, yarataca\u011f\u0131 ba\u015fka ortamlar arar.
\n\u00c7evrenizdeki insanlar\u0131 bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. \u0130\u00e7lerinde, m\u00fckemmel oldu\u011funa inand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ama hala neden evlenemedi\u011fini ya da mutsuz bir ili\u015fkisi oldu\u011funu anlayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015filer yok mu? D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131p, d\u00f6rt d\u00f6rtl\u00fck kad\u0131n dediklerinizle birlikte ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 hayal edin. Haz\u0131r bir hayat. \u0130lk ba\u015flarda \u00e7ok keyifli gelse de, zaman i\u00e7inde son derece s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131, tek d\u00fcze ve bo\u015f bir ya\u015fam \u015feklini al\u0131r. \u0130nsani egonuz zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

M\u00fckemmellik, kendinden vazge\u00e7mek demektir. S\u00fcrekli ba\u015fkalar\u0131 i\u00e7in ya\u015famak, onlar\u0131n ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 gidermek, onlar\u0131n sevdiklerini se\u00e7mek ve haz\u0131rlamak, hep ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek, m\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n\u0131 ki\u015filiksiz k\u0131lar. Kendi hayat\u0131ndan vazge\u00e7mek, sa\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n her telini s\u00fcp\u00fcrge etmek, gereksiz \u00f6zveri ve fedakarl\u0131k g\u00f6stermek, kar\u015f\u0131 taraftan alk\u0131\u015f ve takdir almaz. D\u00fczenli olarak bunlar yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, g\u00f6revmi\u015f gibi alg\u0131lan\u0131r ve k\u0131ymet bilinmez.<\/p>\n

Kusursuz ve m\u00fckemmel olmak, sadece zarar verir. E\u015fini, \u00e7ocu\u011funu, kendini hatta dostlar\u0131n\u0131 bile zor bir psikolojik s\u00fcrece sokar. \u0130li\u015fkiler payla\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a de\u011fer kazan\u0131r ve keyif verir. M\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n mutlu olamaz. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenlerken, kendine ait bir ya\u015fam\u0131 unutur.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan dedi\u011fin kusurlu olur. Hatalar\u0131, yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ile var olur. M\u00fckemmellik, insana ait de\u011fildir. Kusursuz veya m\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n olmay\u0131n. Bu sizi ancak, ruhsal k\u00f6le ve ya\u015fam hizmet\u00e7isi yapar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cM\u00fckemmel kad\u0131n\u201d denildi\u011finde akl\u0131n\u0131za ne gelir? Toplumun ve ya\u015fam\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcne yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u00fcm s\u0131fatlar\u0131 eksiksiz yerine getiren kad\u0131n! \u0130yi bir e\u015f,...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5044,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[730,731,732,182,408,116],"class_list":["post-5043","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-kadin-psikolojisi","tag-kisisel-gelisim","tag-mukemmel-kadin-olmak-mi","tag-online-terapi","tag-psikolog","tag-psikolojik-danisma"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5043","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5043"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5043\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5043"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5043"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5043"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}