{"id":5131,"date":"2024-12-10T23:20:00","date_gmt":"2024-12-10T23:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=5131"},"modified":"2024-12-29T13:03:26","modified_gmt":"2024-12-29T13:03:26","slug":"evlilik-oncesi-nisanlilara-tavsiyeler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/5131\/evlilik-oncesi-nisanlilara-tavsiyeler\/","title":{"rendered":"Evlilik \u00d6ncesi Ni\u015fanl\u0131lara Tavsiyeler"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>1. \u00c7iftler Aras\u0131nda Mesafe Olmal\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ni\u015fanlanan \u00e7iftler, nas\u0131l ki bug\u00fcne kadar haramdan uzak bir \u015fekilde birbirine mesafeli davrand\u0131ysa, nikah g\u00fcn\u00fcne kadar bu mesafeyi muhafaza etmelidirler. El ele tutu\u015fmak gibi birbirlerine temas hareketlerinde bulunmamal\u0131, edep s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fan mesajla\u015fma ve telefon g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmelerinde bulunmamal\u0131. Tabi ki gerekti\u011finde g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp, mesajla\u015fabilirler. Fakat bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeler tek ba\u015flar\u0131na tenha, kimsenin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerlerde ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilmemelidir. Hatta aile bireylerinden birilerinin yanlar\u0131nda olmas\u0131 durumunda g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme sa\u011flamal\u0131d\u0131rlar. E\u011fer bu \u015fartlar sa\u011flamayacaksa \u00e7iftler dini nikahlar\u0131n\u0131 da resmi nikahlar\u0131n\u0131 da sonra yapmalar\u0131 do\u011frudur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ni\u015fanl\u0131l\u0131k d\u00f6neminde iyi niyet ile k\u0131y\u0131lan nikah bazen k\u00f6t\u00fc sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 beraberinde getiriyor.Unutmayal\u0131m ki nikah; erkek ile kad\u0131n\u0131 birbirine helal k\u0131lman\u0131n tek yoludur. \u201cBirinizin i\u00e7ine (nikah\u0131 helal) bir kad\u0131n ile evlenme d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi do\u011fdu\u011funda ona baks\u0131n; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bakmak, kalplerin birbirine kayna\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar.\u201d ( Tirmiz\u00ee, Nikah, 74 )<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Ailelere Kar\u015f\u0131 Sayg\u0131l\u0131 Olmal\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde ni\u015fanl\u0131 \u00e7iftlerde en \u00e7ok duydu\u011fumuz c\u00fcmlelerden birisi: \u201d Aman ailesiyle mi evleniyorum? banane ki \u201d gibi e\u015finin ailesini hi\u00e7e sayan, tan\u0131mayan, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermeyen tav\u0131r ve davran\u0131\u015flar maalesef ki artt\u0131. \u00c7iftler ni\u015fan ile birbirinin ailesini daha iyi tan\u0131maya ba\u015flar. Aileler aras\u0131 yap\u0131sal ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrel de\u011fi\u015fiklikler olabilir. Hepimiz Allah\u2019\u0131n yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir kul olarak bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6rmek, yarg\u0131lamak gibi haddimizi a\u015fan davran\u0131\u015flarda asla bulunamay\u0131z. E\u015fimiz olacak ki\u015finin; aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerine kendi ailemize g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz sevgi, sayg\u0131 ve alakay\u0131 g\u00f6stermeliyiz. Ailelerin r\u0131zal\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmadan bir evlili\u011fin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. Bu y\u00fczden ailelerimizi raz\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131 \u015fekilde davranmaya dikkat etmeli, onlar\u0131n kalplerini k\u0131rmamaya \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermeliyiz.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Sab\u0131r-\u015e\u00fck\u00fcr-Dua \u0130le Huzuru Bulmal\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Art\u0131k evliliklerin bile g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu devirde ni\u015fan bozma olaylar\u0131 \u00e7ok ola\u011fan bir hal haline gelmi\u015ftir. Sab\u0131r ve \u015f\u00fckr\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, duan\u0131n az yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6nemde e\u015fler aras\u0131 ge\u00e7imin olmas\u0131 da \u00e7ok zor tabi. \u00d6ncelikle evlenecek ki\u015filer \u015fu \u00f6zellikleri ta\u015f\u0131yan ki\u015fileri se\u00e7meli ki huzurlu bir aile hayat\u0131na ad\u0131m atabilsin. Dinine ba\u011fl\u0131, ahl\u00e2kl\u0131, g\u00fczel huylu, d\u00fcr\u00fcst; g\u00fczellik, maddiyat, kariyer ve meslekte birbirlerine denk ya da erke\u011fin \u00fcst\u00fcn oldu\u011fu ki\u015filer tercih edilmelidir. Ama en \u00f6nemlisi dindar olan\u0131 se\u00e7meli. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc dindar olmayan bir ki\u015finin mal\u0131, m\u00fclk\u00fc, g\u00fczelli\u011fi onun mutlu ve huzurlu olmas\u0131na yetmez. Madde hayat\u0131na ba\u011flanan ki\u015finin kalbi Allahu Te\u00e2l\u00e2\u2019dan uzakla\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Allah\u2019\u0131 unutan bir kalp; ne sabr\u0131 bilir ne de \u015f\u00fckr\u00fc. Her zaman mutlulu\u011fu d\u00fcnyevi \u015feylerde arayarak sonsuz bir mutsuzlu\u011fa d\u00fc\u015fer. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczdeki ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck sebebi de bu mutsuzluktur. \u201cKim bir kad\u0131nla mal\u0131 veya g\u00fczelli\u011fi i\u00e7in evlenirse, kad\u0131n\u0131n mal\u0131ndan da, g\u00fczelli\u011finden de mahrum olur. (Hayr\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmez). Kim bir kad\u0131nla, dindarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sebebiyle evlenirse, y\u00fcce Allah o ki\u015fiyi kad\u0131n\u0131n mal\u0131yla da, g\u00fczelli\u011fiyle de nasiplendirir, faydaland\u0131r\u0131r.\u201d (Hadis-i \u015eerif; Taber\u00e2n\u00ee, El-Evsat N:2527)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. \u00c7iftler Aras\u0131nda Mesafe Olmal\u0131 Ni\u015fanlanan \u00e7iftler, nas\u0131l ki bug\u00fcne kadar haramdan uzak bir \u015fekilde birbirine mesafeli davrand\u0131ysa, nikah g\u00fcn\u00fcne&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7835,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[23,1291,52,466,706,707],"class_list":["post-5131","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-evlilik-danismani","tag-evlilik-oncesi-nisanlilara-tavsiyeler","tag-evlilik-terapisi","tag-iliski-danismani","tag-kizilay-aile-danismani","tag-yasam-kocu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5131","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5131"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5131\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8258,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5131\/revisions\/8258"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7835"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5131"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5131"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5131"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}