{"id":5222,"date":"2017-05-21T02:59:08","date_gmt":"2017-05-20T23:59:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=5222"},"modified":"2017-05-21T02:59:08","modified_gmt":"2017-05-20T23:59:08","slug":"kiskancligi-nasil-durdurursunuz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/5222\/kiskancligi-nasil-durdurursunuz\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 Nas\u0131l Durdurursunuz?"},"content":{"rendered":"

K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k \u0130li\u015fkinizi Mahvediyor Mu?<\/h2>\n

K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k Nedir?<\/h2>\n

Ger\u00e7ek ya da hayali bir tehdit kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda, korku, \u015f\u00fcphe veya g\u0131pta etme duygusuna engel olamama durumudur.<\/p>\n

K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u0130li\u015fkiniz \u00dczerindeki Olumsuz Etkileri<\/h2>\n

K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, ili\u015fkilerde y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 olabilir. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k genel olarak hayali d\u00fcrt\u00fcler sonucunda olu\u015fmaya ba\u015flar. Tabi ki ger\u00e7ek ihanetler de olmuyor de\u011fil. Ancak, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k nedeniyle tedavi almak isteyenlerin b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011funda, durum genellikle kontrol edilemeyen hayaller sonucundad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Genellikle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u015f\u00fcphe ile ba\u015flar. Daha sonra beyin s\u00fcrekli yeni hayaller \u00fcretir ve k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ma\u011fduru ki\u015fi bu hayallerin ger\u00e7ek oldu\u011funa inan\u0131r. Partneriniz, kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten birine g\u00f6z ucuyla bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda dahi anksiyete ve panik durumu ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. Bu durum k\u0131skanan ki\u015fi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olduk\u00e7a yorucu ve zordur. Zihinde ya\u015fanan depresif durumlar, endi\u015fe, duygular\u0131 kontrol edememe, ba\u015fka \u015feylere konsantre olamama, pi\u015fmanl\u0131k ve hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k Belirtileri<\/h2>\n
    \n
  1. S\u0131kl\u0131kla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131lan k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k belirtileri;<\/li>\n
  2. E\u015finizin, ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla uygunsuz ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde oldu\u011funu hayal etmek,<\/li>\n
  3. Y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerden kendini uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmay\u0131 ba\u015faramamak,<\/li>\n
  4. Her g\u00fcn anksiyete ve g\u00fcvensizlik ya\u015famak,<\/li>\n
  5. Uzun s\u00fcreli ili\u015fkiler kurmakta zorlanmakt\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Farkl\u0131 D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye \u00c7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n<\/h2>\n

    K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ilk ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 olay\u0131 bulmak, tedavi i\u00e7in en \u00f6nemli konudur. Ki\u015fi beyinde kurgulanan ihanetin ger\u00e7ekli\u011fine a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 inand\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, bu duygunun k\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 olduk\u00e7a zordur. K\u0131skan\u00e7 ki\u015fi kafas\u0131ndan ge\u00e7irdiklerini \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir ki\u015fiye anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerine olan inanc\u0131 tam oldu\u011fundan, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015fiyi de kesinlikle ihanete u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131na inand\u0131r\u0131r. Kendine ac\u0131ma, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131, nefret, a\u015fk birbirine kar\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f durumdad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

    K\u0131skanan ki\u015fiyi, aksine inand\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 daha ileri boyuta ta\u015f\u0131r. \u0130kna etmek i\u00e7in, beyin \u00e7ok daha fazla hayal \u00fcretir. Bu t\u00fcr durumlarda yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken, ki\u015fiye \u00f6nce kendine g\u00fcven duygusunu a\u015f\u0131lamakla ba\u015flamakt\u0131r. Onu, \u00f6ncelikle kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakine olan nefret duygusundan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p, kendi hayat\u0131 hakk\u0131nda motive etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ona yeteneklerini hat\u0131rlatmak, yapabileceklerini, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011fu alanlar\u0131 yeniden hat\u0131rlatmak, ya da kafas\u0131n\u0131 me\u015fgul edecek hobilere y\u00f6nlendirmek, yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekenler aras\u0131nda ilk s\u0131radad\u0131r. Bilmesi gereken, kesinlikle kendi varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemi ve kendine olan sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yeniden kazanmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

    K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131ktan Kurtulmak<\/h2>\n

    K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131kta kurtulmak i\u00e7in ikinci a\u015fama;<\/h4>\n
      \n
    • Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakine g\u00fcvenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. \u0130lk seferde zorlanacaks\u0131n\u0131z. Ancak deneyin. Her s\u00f6yledi\u011finin yalan oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek yerine, kendinizi do\u011fru s\u00f6yledi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye zorlay\u0131n.<\/li>\n
    • Cebini, c\u00fczdan\u0131n\u0131 kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak \u00fczere harekete ge\u00e7ti\u011finizde kendinizi frenleyin. \u201cBug\u00fcn ona g\u00fcveniyorum\u201d<\/li>\n
    • Cep telefonunu kurcalarken, ba\u015fka biri benim telefonumu kurcalasa, arkada\u015flar\u0131nla \u015fakala\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, ailemde zor durumda olan biriyle olan yaz\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6rse nas\u0131l hissederdim? Diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/li>\n
    • Kendinizin nas\u0131l bir \u00f6zel alan\u0131 varsa, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin de oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/li>\n
    • G\u00f6zlerinin i\u00e7ine bak\u0131n. Orada size olan duygular\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6receksiniz. Bu sizi rahatlat\u0131r.<\/li>\n
    • \u00c7ok fazla sorgulad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda ili\u015fkinizin bitece\u011fini, bu durumun size ne hissettirece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/li>\n
    • S\u00fcrekli ihanet etti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek yerin, onu kaybetti\u011finizde ne hissedece\u011finize odaklanarak kendinizi frenleyin.<\/li>\n
    • T\u00fcm bunlar\u0131 denedi\u011finiz halde ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olamad\u0131ysan\u0131z, daha fazla kendinizi y\u0131pratmadan bir terapistten yard\u0131m al\u0131n. Yaln\u0131z ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za bu durumdan kurtulmak \u00e7ok kolay de\u011fildir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k \u0130li\u015fkinizi Mahvediyor Mu? K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k Nedir? Ger\u00e7ek ya da hayali bir tehdit kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda, korku, \u015f\u00fcphe veya g\u0131pta etme duygusuna engel...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5223,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,145],"tags":[779],"class_list":["post-5222","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-psikoloji","tag-kiskancligi-nasil-durdurursunuz"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5222","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5222"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5222\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5222"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5222"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5222"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}