{"id":5821,"date":"2017-10-17T01:40:01","date_gmt":"2017-10-16T22:40:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=5821"},"modified":"2017-10-17T01:40:01","modified_gmt":"2017-10-16T22:40:01","slug":"dogru-iletisim-cocugun-yanlis-davranisini-engeller","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/5821\/dogru-iletisim-cocugun-yanlis-davranisini-engeller\/","title":{"rendered":"Do\u011fru \u0130leti\u015fim \u00c7ocu\u011fun Yanl\u0131\u015f Davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 Engeller"},"content":{"rendered":"
Anne ve Baba evde \u00e7ocu\u011fun ilk ileti\u015fimi kurdu\u011fu bireylerdir. \u0130leti\u015fim, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli yeti\u015fmesi, kendisini do\u011fru ifade edebilmesi ve yanl\u0131\u015f olan bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 ortadan kald\u0131rma a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun hatal\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 durdurman\u0131n en temel kural\u0131 do\u011fru ileti\u015fimdir.<\/span><\/div>\n
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Do\u011fru ileti\u015fim kurman\u0131n yollar\u0131<\/b>;<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Ben Dili:\u00a0<\/b><\/span>\u00c7ocu\u011funuz, onaylamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir davran\u0131\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, \u201d ben dili \u201d kullan\u0131rsan\u0131z onun ki\u015fili\u011fini hedef almadan, ona su\u00e7luluk duygusu vermemi\u015f olursunuz. Onaylamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n, k\u0131sa ve somut tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 yaparak, bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n sizde hangi duygu ve etkiyi ya\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131n. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u201cSEN\u201d beni \u00fcz\u00fcyorsun, \u201cSEN\u201d beni k\u0131zd\u0131r\u0131yorsun`un yerine \u201cBEN\u201d \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcyorum, \u201cBEN\u201d k\u0131z\u0131yorum gibi c\u00fcmlelerle duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ifade etmek \u00e7ok daha do\u011fru bir ileti\u015fim \u015fekli olacakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2. Beden Dili:\u00a0<\/b><\/span>Beden dili, \u00e7ocu\u011fu konu\u015fmaya ve i\u015fbirli\u011fine a\u00e7\u0131k hale getirir. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzla bir \u015fey konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman; yak\u0131n mesafede, onun g\u00f6z hizas\u0131na denk gelecek \u015fekide boyunuzu ayarlayarak ve y\u00fcz y\u00fcze durarak konu\u015fun. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun dikkatini toplamas\u0131 i\u00e7in dokunarak konu\u015fmay\u0131 ba\u015flatman\u0131z yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzla ayn\u0131 hizada olarak konu\u015fman\u0131z, bedensel e\u015fitli\u011fi sa\u011flar ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za kendilerini de\u011ferli hisettirir.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

3. Net Olun:<\/span>\u00a0<\/b>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 yans\u0131t\u0131rken net olun. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u201dBen \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcyorum\u201d, \u201cBen k\u0131z\u0131yorum\u201d derken sebebini net olarak a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131n. E\u011fer net bir a\u00e7\u0131klama yapmazsan\u0131z, \u00e7ocu\u011funuz sizin akl\u0131n\u0131za bile gelmeyecek bir \u015feyler d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp bu durumdan \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 sonu\u00e7lar \u00e7\u0131karabilirler.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

4. Ko\u015fulsuz kabul edin:\u00a0<\/b><\/span>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzu, her y\u00f6n\u00fcyle yani g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc-zay\u0131f, yeterli-yetersiz b\u00fct\u00fcn y\u00f6nleriyle kabul edin. Ba\u015fka bir \u00e7ocukla \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu k\u0131yaslamak onu reddetmek anlam\u0131na gelir. Anne ve Baba`n\u0131n ne anlatmak istedi\u011fi kadar \u00e7ocu\u011funda ne anlayaca\u011f\u0131 \u00f6nemlidir. \u201dBak Ay\u015fe`ye ne g\u00fczel y\u00fcksek not alm\u0131\u015f, sen neden d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck ald\u0131n\u201d demek Ay\u015fe`yi onaylamak, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu da onaylamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z anlam\u0131n\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131r. Bu da \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015fmas\u0131na, sizinle daha \u00e7ok inatla\u015fmas\u0131na neden olacakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

5. Dinleyin ve Anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n:\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/span>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzu dinlemeniz daha do\u011frusu anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak \u201caktif\u201d dinlemeniz, onun anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>ger\u00e7ek duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini anlaman\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flayacakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/span>
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\n\u00a0Aile i\u00e7i s\u0131k s\u0131k yap\u0131lan ileti\u015fim hatalar\u0131:<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

– Anne ve Baba`n\u0131n tutars\u0131z olmas\u0131<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

– \u015eikayet<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

– Taktir etmeme<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

– Tart\u0131\u015fma<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

– Tekrarlama<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

– Yanl\u0131\u015f davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelme<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Anne ve Baba evde \u00e7ocu\u011fun ilk ileti\u015fimi kurdu\u011fu bireylerdir. \u0130leti\u015fim, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli yeti\u015fmesi, kendisini do\u011fru ifade edebilmesi ve yanl\u0131\u015f olan...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5822,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,10,145],"tags":[27,760,951,952,939,139,163],"class_list":["post-5821","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-pedagog","category-psikoloji","tag-aile-danismanligi","tag-anne-baba-egitimi","tag-anne-iletisimi","tag-baba-iletisimi","tag-eryaman-cocuk-psikolog","tag-kizilay-pedagog","tag-sehitkamil-psikolog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5821","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5821"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5821\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5821"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5821"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5821"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}