{"id":5893,"date":"2024-11-08T00:27:28","date_gmt":"2024-11-08T00:27:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=5893"},"modified":"2024-12-29T13:07:29","modified_gmt":"2024-12-29T13:07:29","slug":"bosanmis-aileler-ve-cocuk-psikolojisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/5893\/bosanmis-aileler-ve-cocuk-psikolojisi\/","title":{"rendered":"Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f Aileler ve \u00c7ocuk Psikolojisi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"cf-tweet-this cf-tt-target cf-tt-enabled cf-tt-out-of-bounds cf-tt-out-of-bounds-top cf-tt-element-attached-top cf-tt-element-attached-center cf-tt-target-attached-bottom cf-tt-target-attached-center\">G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn en yayg\u0131n problemlerinden biri de bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f aileler ve onlar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131d\u0131r. Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar ailelerinin bo\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissetmezken, baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar bu d\u00f6nemi \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerle atlat\u0131r. Hatta \u00e7o\u011fu zaman tedaviye ihtiya\u00e7 duyar. Bunun nedeni anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131n art\u0131k yan\u0131nda olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissetmesi, tercih yapmak zorunda oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesidir. Fakat \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bo\u015fanan taraf fark etmeksizin \u00e7ocuk annesinin babas\u0131n\u0131 sevmedi\u011fini ya da babas\u0131n\u0131n annesini sevmedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek psikolojik bunal\u0131ma girebilir. \u00c7iftler bo\u015fanma evrelerinde sona yakla\u015fm\u0131\u015fsa bu durumu uzatmadan halletmelidir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun al\u0131\u015fma s\u00fcresinin geni\u015f tutulmas\u0131 ve bu nedenle bo\u015fanmak yerine evleri ay\u0131rmak yanl\u0131\u015f olabilir. \u00c7ocuk her istedi\u011finde anne ya da babas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rebilece\u011fini her zaman bilmelidir. E\u011fer \u00e7ok sorunlu bir evlilik sonland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yorsa, o zaman hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde durum \u00e7ocu\u011fa yans\u0131t\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocukla birebir diyaloglarda e\u015fler birbirini ele\u015ftirmemelidir. Bu tutum kesinlikle \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n psikolojisini bozacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f Aileler \u00c7ocuklar\u0131na Nas\u0131l Davranmal\u0131?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f aileler bu kararlar\u0131ndan \u00f6nce ve sonras\u0131nda \u00a0\u00e7ocu\u011fun pedagoga g\u00f6r\u00fcnmesi \u00a0faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk \u00f6zellikle anne ya da babadan birine d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcnse, bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131nda da beraberli\u011fi kesmemeli ve ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015f\u0131yormu\u015f\u00e7as\u0131na vakit ge\u00e7irilmelidir. \u00c7ocu\u011fa bu durum detayland\u0131r\u0131lmadan anlat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ya\u015fanan k\u00f6t\u00fc durumlar ve bo\u015fanma noktas\u0131na gelen taraf sakinli\u011fini korumal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n tek olmas\u0131 onun i\u00e7in bu d\u00f6nemi daha zor hale getirebilir. Yaln\u0131z, unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r ki \u00e7ocu\u011fa hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde anne ya da babas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rme konusunda s\u0131n\u0131rland\u0131rma getirilmemelidir. Bu olduk\u00e7a yanl\u0131\u015f tutumlardan biridir. Mahkeme \u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00e7ocu\u011fun ifadelerinin ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerinin al\u0131nmas\u0131 her zaman sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olmayacakt\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun kimle ya\u015famak istedi\u011finin \u00f6nemi kadar \u00e7ocu\u011fa kimin daha iyi bakaca\u011f\u0131 da \u00f6nemli bir husustur.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div>Baz\u0131\u00a0<strong>bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f<\/strong>\u00a0ailelerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerini ya da korkular\u0131n\u0131 d\u0131\u015far\u0131 vurmaktan \u00e7ekinirler. \u00d6rne\u011fin, kolay kolay a\u011flamazlar ama yanl\u0131\u015f ba\u015f\u0131na kald\u0131klar\u0131nda a\u011flayabilirler. \u0130\u00e7lerinde ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 belli etmek yerine mutlu g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyi ye\u011flerler fakat ufak bir s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131da \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015fe ya da depresyon d\u00f6nemine dahi girebilirler. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve mutlu sanan aileler pek \u00e7ok zaman yan\u0131larak istedikleri gibi davran\u0131r ve istedikleri gibi konu\u015furlar. Her zaman \u00e7ocuk psikolojisi \u00f6n planda tutulmal\u0131 ve aileler \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok iyi tan\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Anne ya da baba olarak \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hayat\u0131nda yeri b\u00fcy\u00fck olan insanlar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na bu d\u00f6nemde arkada\u015f gibi yakla\u015fmas\u0131 da do\u011fru de\u011fildir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n her \u015feyden \u00f6nce bir anne ve bir babaya ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n her evresinde arkada\u015fl\u0131k kavram\u0131n\u0131n abart\u0131lmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi de s\u00f6ylenebilir. Bunlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7ocuklara sadece maddi ihtiya\u00e7 anlam\u0131nda bak\u0131lmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi de bilinmelidir. Evden ayr\u0131lan taraf\u0131n her g\u00fcn \u00e7ocu\u011fu ile ileti\u015fim kurmas\u0131, g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcl\u00fc konu\u015fmas\u0131 ya da onu g\u00f6rmesi \u00f6nemli ayr\u0131nt\u0131lard\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde neler yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmesi ya da onunla diyalog halinde kalmaya \u00e7abalamas\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fun s\u00fcreci daha kolay ve h\u0131zl\u0131 \u015fekilde atlatmas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Ailesi bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocuklarda farkl\u0131 bir \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck d\u00f6nemi hissedilir. Anne ya da baba baz\u0131 izin g\u00f6revlerini birbirine atarak asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fu istemeden gereksiz bir \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck d\u00f6nemine sokarlar. \u00d6rne\u011fin, d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmak isteyen \u00e7ocu\u011fun annesinden izin almas\u0131 ve babas\u0131na sormas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi cevab\u0131 ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131 direkt olarak \u00e7ocuk beyninde anneyi ge\u00e7ersiz k\u0131lacakt\u0131r. Bir zaman sonra \u00e7ocuk b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde anneyi g\u00f6rmezden gelerek istedi\u011fini yapmaya ba\u015flamas\u0131n\u0131n sebebi de budur.<\/p>\n<h2>\u00c7ocu\u011funuz \u0130\u00e7in Pedagog \u2018dan Yard\u0131m Al\u0131n<\/h2>\n<p>Anne ve baban\u0131n bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 asla ortak bir maneviyata sahip olduklar\u0131 ger\u00e7e\u011fini de\u011fi\u015ftirmemektedir. Her zaman \u00e7ocuk hakk\u0131nda irtibat halinde kalmak ve aralar\u0131ndaki anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuk konusuna yans\u0131tmamak \u00f6nemlidir. Do\u011fru ebeveynler sadece ayn\u0131 evi payla\u015fan ki\u015filer de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocu\u011funun anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131n bo\u015fanmas\u0131 halinde \u00e7ok daha mutlu oldu\u011funu ispatlayan pek \u00e7ok bo\u015fanma vakas\u0131 da bulunmaktad\u0131r. Bu nedenle bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f ailelerde \u00e7ocuk psikolojisi her \u015feyden \u00f6nce d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmesi ve gerekirse yard\u0131m al\u0131nmas\u0131 gereken konulardan biridir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn en yayg\u0131n problemlerinden biri de bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f aileler ve onlar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131d\u0131r. Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar ailelerinin bo\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissetmezken, baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar bu d\u00f6nemi&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5894,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,10,145],"tags":[299,1124,126,139,8,678],"class_list":["post-5893","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-pedagog","category-psikoloji","tag-bosanmis-aileler","tag-bosanmis-anne-baba","tag-cocuk-psikolojisi","tag-kizilay-pedagog","tag-sehitkamil-aile-danismanim","tag-sehitkamil-cocuk-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5893","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5893"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5893\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8318,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5893\/revisions\/8318"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5893"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5893"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5893"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}