{"id":6120,"date":"2024-11-11T00:53:14","date_gmt":"2024-11-11T00:53:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=6120"},"modified":"2024-12-29T13:09:19","modified_gmt":"2024-12-29T13:09:19","slug":"ofkeli-cocuga-nasil-davranilmalidir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/6120\/ofkeli-cocuga-nasil-davranilmalidir\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00d6fkeli \u00c7ocu\u011fa Nas\u0131l Davran\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Anne babalar\u0131n en \u00e7aresiz kald\u0131klar\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerden biri de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6fkeleri ile ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131klar\u0131 zamanlard\u0131r. \u0130stedi\u011fi yap\u0131lmayan her \u00e7ocuk, ba\u011f\u0131rma, \u0131s\u0131rma, vurma ve kendini yere atma y\u00f6ntemlerine ba\u015fvurabilir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hi\u00e7bir \u00e7ocuk \u201chay\u0131r\u201d cevab\u0131n\u0131 sevmez. Hatta bu onun \u00f6fkesini daha da art\u0131rabilmektedir. Bu durumda \u201c\u00e7ivi \u00e7iviyi s\u00f6ker\u201d deyip ayn\u0131 \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde \u00e7ocu\u011fa tepki g\u00f6stermek ise yap\u0131lan en b\u00fcy\u00fck yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Dikkati \u00e7ekmek i\u00e7in \u00f6fkesi kullan\u0131r<\/h2>\n

\u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fc, korku, \u015fa\u015f\u0131rma, sevinme gibi temel bir duygu olan \u00f6fke, spontan ve do\u011fal olarak y\u00fczde k\u0131zarma, kalbin \u00e7arpmas\u0131 ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklarda a\u011flama krizlerine varan tepkiler olarak ortaya \u00e7\u0131kabilmektedir. Bebek, do\u011fumundan sonraki d\u00f6nemde ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011flama ile giderildi\u011fini ve \u00e7evreyi harekete ge\u00e7irebildi\u011fini yava\u015f yava\u015f \u00f6\u011frenir. \u0130htiya\u00e7lar\u0131 giderilmedi\u011finde hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile tan\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve tek \u00e7aresinin a\u011flamak oldu\u011funun fark\u0131na varmaktad\u0131r. Bir ya\u015f\u0131ndan itibaren \u00e7ocuklar b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e \u00f6fkelenme ve bunu g\u00f6sterme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na ba\u015flamaktad\u0131r. \u00d6fkeli davran\u0131\u015flar genellikle yapmak istedi\u011fini yapamama, istemedi\u011fi bir \u015feyi yapma, \u00e7ok yorulma, ac\u0131kma, kendini ifade edememe ve ebeveynlerin dikkatini \u00e7ekmek amac\u0131yla kullan\u0131lan bir y\u00f6ntemdir.<\/p>\n

Krizin ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 nokta<\/h2>\n

\u00c7ocuklarda davran\u0131\u015flar bu d\u00f6nemde ben merkezli ve d\u00fcrt\u00fcsel olmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 engellemek istemezler ve bunun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda da onu y\u00f6nlendirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ebeveynler ile z\u0131tla\u015fmaktad\u0131rlar. \u0130\u015fte tam da bu noktada kriz ba\u015flamaktad\u0131r. Bu noktada \u00e7ocuk ba\u011f\u0131rabilir, \u0131s\u0131rabilir, vurabilir ve kendini yere atabilmektedir.<\/p>\n

2 ya\u015f en kritik d\u00f6nem<\/h2>\n

\u0130ki ya\u015f d\u00f6nemi \u00e7o\u011funlukla \u201ckorkun\u00e7 iki ya\u015f (terrible two)\u201d olarak adland\u0131r\u0131lmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk bu ya\u015fta y\u00fcr\u00fcmeye ve konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flar, \u00e7evre \u00fczerinde h\u00e2kimiyeti artar. Kendini d\u00fcnyan\u0131n merkezindeymi\u015f gibi hisseden \u00e7ocuk, yapmak istedi\u011finin engellenmesinden ho\u015flanmaz ve \u2018hay\u0131r\u2019lar ba\u015flamaktad\u0131r. Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 gerginlik artt\u0131k\u00e7a \u00e7ocukta tutturmalar, negatif tav\u0131rlar \u00f6fke krizlerine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilmektedir.<\/p>\n

Ayn\u0131 \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde tepki vermeyin<\/h2>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fun \u00f6fkeli tutumlar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 tepki vermek onun gerginli\u011fini daha da art\u0131rmaktad\u0131r. Sakin kalmal\u0131 ve kriz an\u0131 ge\u00e7ince \u00e7ocukla konu\u015farak durumu de\u011ferlendirerek duygular\u0131n d\u0131\u015fa vurulmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak her iki taraf\u0131 da rahatlatacakt\u0131r. Herhangi bir vurma davran\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fu sadece tutmak ve onunla g\u00f6z konta\u011f\u0131 kurarak bunu bir daha yapmamas\u0131 s\u00f6ylemek do\u011fru olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011funuza vurmak yerine g\u00f6z konta\u011f\u0131 sa\u011flamay\u0131 deneyin<\/h2>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fa vurman\u0131n bir s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131k g\u00f6stergesi oldu\u011fu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde anne-baba-\u00e7ocuk \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde ebeveynin konumu vurgulanarak s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n \u00e7izilmesi gerekmektedir. \u00c7ocu\u011fu odaya kapatarak cezaland\u0131rmak gibi \u00f6fkeyi art\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 ve anlams\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flardan uzak durmak gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u00f6fkeli \u015fekilde davranmak onun da ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde davranmas\u0131na model olu\u015fturmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Krizi \u00f6nlemek i\u00e7in do\u011fru c\u00fcmleler se\u00e7in<\/h2>\n

\u0130stedi\u011fini yapt\u0131rmak i\u00e7in \u00f6fkelenen \u00e7ocu\u011fun bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na son vermek isteyen ebeveynler \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n iste\u011fini an\u0131nda yerine getirme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7ebiliyorlar. H\u0131zl\u0131 bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmm\u00fc\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de asl\u0131nda bu durum \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6fkelenmek ve istedi\u011finin olmas\u0131 aras\u0131nda ili\u015fki kurmas\u0131n\u0131 ve bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 peki\u015ftirmesini sa\u011flamaktad\u0131r. Yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken davran\u0131\u015flarda net olmakt\u0131r. \u00d6rne\u011fin yatma saati gelmi\u015f ise \u2018Yata\u011fa gitmek ister misin?\u2019 gibi a\u00e7\u0131k u\u00e7lu bir soru yerine \u201cYata\u011fa gitme saati\u2019 demek ve krizleri \u00f6nlemekte daha faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Oyun terapisi ile \u00f6fkesine \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bulun<\/h2>\n

Sorun \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmez ise ilerleyen ya\u015flarda dikkat eksikli\u011fi, hiperaktivite, kayg\u0131, depresyon gibi psikiyatrik tablolar\u0131n da e\u015flik etti\u011fi \u00f6fke kontrol sorunlar\u0131 ya\u015fanabilmektedir. Bu t\u00fcr durumlarda ailelerin dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k hizmeti almas\u0131 yarar\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. Oyun terapisi teknikleri ile uygulanan psikoterapi s\u00fcreci bu konuda faydal\u0131 y\u00f6ntemler aras\u0131nda yer almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Anne babalar\u0131n en \u00e7aresiz kald\u0131klar\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerden biri de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6fkeleri ile ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131klar\u0131 zamanlard\u0131r. \u0130stedi\u011fi yap\u0131lmayan her \u00e7ocuk, ba\u011f\u0131rma, \u0131s\u0131rma,...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6121,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,10,145],"tags":[1093,126,1094,139,893,678,895],"class_list":["post-6120","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-pedagog","category-psikoloji","tag-cocuga-nasil-davranmali","tag-cocuk-psikolojisi","tag-hircin-cocuk","tag-kizilay-pedagog","tag-ofkeli-cocuk","tag-sehitkamil-cocuk-psikologu","tag-sinirli-cocuk"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6120","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6120"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6120\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8333,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6120\/revisions\/8333"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6120"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6120"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6120"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}