{"id":7209,"date":"2024-12-11T23:52:00","date_gmt":"2024-12-11T23:52:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=7209"},"modified":"2024-12-29T12:36:19","modified_gmt":"2024-12-29T12:36:19","slug":"neden-evlilik-icin-caba-harcanmali","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/7209\/neden-evlilik-icin-caba-harcanmali\/","title":{"rendered":"Neden Evlilik \u0130\u00e7in \u00c7aba Harcanmal\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"neden-evlilik-icin-caba-harcanmali\">Neden Evlilik \u0130\u00e7in \u00c7aba Harcanmal\u0131<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Evlili\u011fin bitmesinin en \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc nedenlerinden biri de de\u011ferinin e\u015fler taraf\u0131ndan \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/4909\/evlilikte-mutluluk-nasil-saglanir\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"4909\">Mutsuz bir evlilik<\/a> hastalanma olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131k %35 oran\u0131nda artt\u0131r\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Evli kalanlar\u0131n ya\u015fam\u0131, bo\u015fanan ki\u015filerin ya\u015fam\u0131ndan 4 y\u0131l daha uzun olmaktad\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mutlu \u00e7iftlerin, bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f ya da mutsuz \u00e7iftlerden daha uzun ve daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ya\u015famlar\u0131 oluyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mutsuz evliliklerde kronik, yayg\u0131n hem fiziksel hem de duygusal a\u00e7\u0131dan s\u00fcrekli stres alt\u0131nda hissediliyor. Bu durum bedene ve zihne, y\u00fcksek tansiyon ve kalp hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 i\u00e7eren \u00e7ok say\u0131da fiziksel rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra anksiyete, depresyon, intihar, \u015fiddet, psikoz, cinayet ve madde ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 i\u00e7eren bir s\u00fcr\u00fc psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131k \u015feklinde kendini belli edebilecek fazladan bir y\u00fck bindiriyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Bo\u015fanma ve mutsuz evlilikler, ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sisteminin i\u015flevini azaltmaktad\u0131r. Bedenin, yabanc\u0131 istilac\u0131larla sava\u015fma yetene\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mutlu \u00e7iftler, ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k i\u015flevindeki bu zay\u0131flamadan ka\u00e7\u0131nmakla kalm\u0131yor; ayr\u0131ca ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sistemleri fazladan bir destek de g\u00f6rebiliyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Gottman taraf\u0131ndan yap\u0131lan bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmada evliliklerinden \u00e7ok ho\u015fnut olanlarla birbirine n\u00f6tr bir duygusal tepki veren ya da mutsuz olanlar aras\u0131nda \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 bir fark ke\u015ffedilmi\u015ftir. Her denekten al\u0131nan kan \u00f6rneklerini, ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sisteminin ba\u015fl\u0131ca savunma silahlar\u0131 olan birtak\u0131m akyuvarlar\u0131n tepkisini s\u0131namak i\u00e7in kullan\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Sonu\u00e7lara g\u00f6re; yabanc\u0131 istilac\u0131lara kar\u015f\u0131 koyan bu akyuvarlar, mutlu \u00e7iftlerde \u00f6teki deneklerdekine k\u0131yasla daha fazla \u00e7o\u011falm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u0130yi bir evlilik ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sitemini g\u00fc\u00e7lendirerek sa\u011fl\u0131\u011fa katk\u0131da bulunarak \u00f6mr\u00fc ve ya\u015fam\u0131n kalitesini y\u00fckseltir.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mutlu bir evlilikten ailenin t\u00fcm \u00fcyeleri kazan\u00e7l\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00c7ocuklarla ilgili bulgular da g\u00f6stermektedir ki; \u00e7ocuklar u\u011fruna k\u00f6t\u00fc bir evlili\u011fi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek ak\u0131ll\u0131ca olmayabilir. Anne baban\u0131n birbirine d\u00fc\u015fmanca davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir evde \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek, a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a zararl\u0131d\u0131r. Huzurlu bir bo\u015fanma, sava\u015f\u0131 and\u0131ran bir evlilikten iyidir. Ne yaz\u0131k ki bo\u015fanmalar nadiren huzurlu olmaktad\u0131r. Anne-baba aras\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k, genellikle ayr\u0131lmadan sonra da devam ediyor. Bu nedenle, anne-babas\u0131 bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f olan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n i\u015fleri \u00e7o\u011funlukla, berbat bir evlili\u011fin \u00e7apraz ate\u015fi aras\u0131nda kalanlar kadar k\u00f6t\u00fc gidiyor. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 olmayan kar\u0131 kocalar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fu da bo\u015fanmadan sonra hala aralar\u0131ndaki bitmemi\u015f i\u015fleri devam ettirebiliyor ve evlilikteki mutsuzluk bo\u015fanmadan sonraki hayat\u0131 da etkilemeye devam ediyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Evlilik tats\u0131zla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, tek ac\u0131 \u00e7eken kar\u0131-koca de\u011fildir; \u00e7ocuklar da ac\u0131 \u00e7eker. Anne baban\u0131n aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc de\u011fi\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklar kendilerinde semptomlar olu\u015fturabilir. Anaokulu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u00fczerinde yap\u0131lan altm\u0131\u015f \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocuk \u00fczerinde yap\u0131lan bir incelemede, evlilik i\u00e7i b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 evlerde yeti\u015fenlerin stres hormonu d\u00fczeyleri, incelenen di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kronik bir bi\u00e7imde y\u00fcksek \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 stresin bu biyolojik g\u00f6stergesi davran\u0131\u015flara da yans\u0131maktad\u0131r. Onbe\u015f ya\u015f\u0131na kadar bu \u00e7ocuklar izlenmi\u015f ve ayn\u0131 ya\u015ftaki di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131nda, okul k\u0131rma, depresyon, ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan reddedilme, davran\u0131\u015fsal sorunlar(\u00f6zellikle sald\u0131rganl\u0131k), okulda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck ba\u015far\u0131, hatta ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa daha yatk\u0131n olduklar\u0131 g\u00f6zlenmi\u015ftir. \u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in anne ve babayla olan bireysel ili\u015fkisinden ziyade anne baban\u0131n aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fki daha \u00f6nemlidir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Kaynaklar: Gottman J.; Evlili\u011fin Yedi \u0130lkesi, Varl\u0131k Yay\u0131nlar\u0131<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.okanbal.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Aile Dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131 Okan Bal<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-rank-math-toc-block\" id=\"rank-math-toc\"><h2>\u0130\u00e7erik<\/h2><nav><ul><li class=\"\"><a href=\"#neden-evlilik-icin-caba-harcanmali\">Neden Evlilik \u0130\u00e7in \u00c7aba Harcanmal\u0131<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"310\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/cropped-Aile-Danismani-OKAN-BAL-1024x310.png\" alt=\"Neden Evlilik \u0130\u00e7in \u00c7aba Harcanmal\u0131\" class=\"wp-image-8237\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/cropped-Aile-Danismani-OKAN-BAL-1024x310.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/cropped-Aile-Danismani-OKAN-BAL-300x91.png 300w, https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/cropped-Aile-Danismani-OKAN-BAL-768x232.png 768w, https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/cropped-Aile-Danismani-OKAN-BAL.png 1500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mutsuz bir evlilik hastalanma olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131k %35 oran\u0131nda artt\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Evli kalanlar\u0131n ya\u015fam\u0131, bo\u015fanan ki\u015filerin ya\u015fam\u0131ndan 4 y\u0131l daha uzun olmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7777,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,1241,1242],"tags":[27,52,129],"class_list":["post-7209","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile-danismanligi","category-cift-terapisi","category-evlilik-terapisi","tag-aile-danismanligi","tag-evlilik-terapisi","tag-sehitkamil-aile-danismani"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7209","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7209"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7209\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8289,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7209\/revisions\/8289"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7777"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7209"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7209"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ailedanismaniokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7209"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}